Ask QC: How can I change my loveless life?

Dear Ask QC,

I am a 39 year old gay man that doesn’t know what to do. I’ve never been in a meaningful relationship. I had a boyfriend for 2 years but I never felt that he ever really cared about me. All he ever did was cheat on me, and when he finally broke up with me he had his “new” boyfriend call and tell me it was over. That was 2 years ago. Since then I have tried to find someone to go out with and its like everyone with in a 50 miles range dont like me. I am a big guy but have lost a lot of weight. I joined a dating site for chubby men and I have gotten no luck with that at all. At least not with anyone with in my state. I even had someone tell me I was “Ugly as fuck!”

I am picky and I know I shouldn’t be, but I can’t help to like what I like. I mean if I could change my attraction, I would like women but I can’t change that and dont really want too. But I am tired of being alone. I’m so sad and lonely. I watch all my friends (big and small) have relationship after relationship, and I can’t even have one. I almost just want to just end it all. Can someone please tell me what I should do? I’ve tried everything I know to do.

Sincerely

Loveless life.

Hi “Loveless life” and thanks for your question and concerns. Sorry to hear that lately you’ve had no luck in finding a life partner. But I’m sure that there are many of us here who’ve had periods of our life like this and can offer advice. So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give? Have any of you been in this situation before? How did you go about getting out of this situation? Did you eventually find the love of your life? If you can help in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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