Ask QC: My “Straight” Friend Blatantly Came on to Me!

Hi QC,

A friend of mine, who I was sure was straight, recently hit me up to catch up and meet for drinks – so I thought nothing of it.

I started getting flirty texts from him a couple days leading up to our meeting which totally throws me off but I brushed it off because this guy is definitely straight.

Then on the night itself, I get to the bar we’re meeting at and get stood up! He said he had car trouble and to try again the next day.

Long story short: I show up and he’s already wasted. Tells me “I’ve never been with a dude, but I think I wanna be. I really like you.”

I’m completely thrown off by this! Then I start to think, “I’m open to liking this situation, he’s very good looking and masculine, which I look for in a guy”.

But after his confession he got more drunk and blacks out so I leave him be and try to catch up the next day – but now I’m only getting very short responses to every question/text.

At this point, I’ve now built the hope that this could possibly be something – should I pursue him?

Thanks, Mike!

Hi Mike and thanks for your question and concerns. Sounds like a difficult situation but one, I’m sure, that has a solution! I guess possibly some of our readers have been in similar situations and can share their experiences on how they resolved it? So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Mike? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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