Ask QC: I Want to be Abused but can’t Find the Right Guy!

Hi QC,

I’m 18 years old and quite a small framed/skinny guy, I’m certainly not big and buffed – but these are the type of guys that I’m attracted too.

Recently I also discovered that I like to be abused during sex, I enjoy and get off on being slapped, punched, spat on and tortured. I can’t explain why it turns me on sexually and I feel a bit weird about it cos I was bullied all through my school days and definitely didn’t enjoy that then!

So apart from the weirdness feeling, my problem is now trying to find the right guy who will treat me like this? Some guys I have met said no way will they do this, but it’s something I feel that I need to be satisfied sexually.

The part that worries me is how do I find a the right guy who treats me well in a relationship but also abuses me in the bedroom? I don’t want someone to treat me like shit all the time, just when we are having sex, what’s the best way to find him?

love and hugs,

JD

Hi JD and thanks for your question, that’s certainly an interesting topic! So dear QC readers what advice would you give? Do you like the idea of being abused? (in a controlled environment sexually that is) Have you experienced being in such a relationship before? How did you find your partner? If you can help JD in any way, or have been in a similar situation then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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