Ask QC: Falling for a Friend

Hi Ask QC,

I’m a 21 year old college student and this past year I finally met up with a guy I had met off of Grindr and texted for about a year. We hit it right off like we had been best friends for years, but I also thought he was the most beautiful person, inside and out, that I’ve met. Later in the year I got a temp job at an airline, where I could travel for free. He was well traveled and my other friends couldn’t acompany me, so I chose him to share my benefits. We traveled several places, including his home town where I met his dad, aunt, grandma etc, whom all loved me. Over time, I realized how much I cared for this friend and wanted more to happen. He had recently broken up with his boyfriend, which I heard was hard because of how in love they were.

Fast forward to the future. I’ve mentioned how I feel to him and he respectfully said I’m not his type. What’s the easiest way to move past him? When I see him talk or flirt with other guys, I still get jealous or upset that he doesn’t feel that way about me. I want his friendship because as I said, I’ve never related so much to another person and deeply care for him as a person. Thanks!

Ethan

Hi Ethan. Thanks for your question and concerns. Sounds like a tricky situation. Unrequited love (or at least an unrequited crush) is always hard, and even more so when it involves a friend. So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give? What’s the best way for Ethan to get over his feelings but keep his friendship? If you can help Ethan in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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