Ask QC: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Love Me Anymore

Dear Ask QC,

My boyfriend of 3 years recently told me that he no longer loved me and wanted to break up. I was devastated and felt cheated because I had no idea. We live together, had a comfortable routine and the sex was still unpredictable and incredible after all the years. He would tell me he loved me almost every day.

Then he left. In one day, three years together was gone. He came back home the next day and agreed that we should ‘take a break’. We had sex. Twice. Then he left again.

I felt miserable, and after some thought, had to ask him if there was someone else or if he was simply trying to slowly let me down. He told me neither was true.

Now he’s talking about moving into a new house together, new sexual fantasies we could try, etc. But he won’t commit to saying we’re still together. Am I being delusional here? Can he fall back in love with me? Should I give up trying?

Thanks for your help,

High and Dry

Greetings High and Dry, and thanks for your question and concerns. It sounds like a difficult situation. As hard as breakups can be, they’re even worse when you aren’t sure whether or not the relationship is actually over. So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give? Should High and Dry hold out hope? Or is it time to cut his losses and move on? If you can help High and Dry in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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