Ask QC: What’s the Best Way to Get Past Jealousy?

Dear Ask QC,

I’m currently dating a guy who gogo dances at a local gay club as a second job. We’ve been dating for over a year now, and I find myself a little uncomfortable with the fact that he spends his Friday and Saturday nights flirting with and getting hit on by other guys. He even gives out his number to guys that ask for it, just because he says it’s much less awkward than refusing. (In his defense, I suspect he’s probably correct about that.)

The thing is, in spite of my raging jealousy, I trust him. He comes home to me every night, and I’m not actually worried, at least intellectually, that he would cheat on me. He’s never been anything but good to me, and I have zero reason to suspect anything of him. I just wish there was some kind of magic button I could press to make this jealousy go away. Any tips for getting over my jealousy? How do I stop my boyfriend’s second job from making me a crazy person? Help!

Thank you,

Green-Eyed

Hi Green-Eyed. Thank you so much for your question and concerns. Jealousy can be tricky. Afraid I don’t have much experience with it, so I’ll turn it over to our readers straight away. What advice do you have for Green-Eyed? How can he stop being jealous of the attention his boyfriend is getting from other guys? Any ideas?
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