Ask QC: Difficulty in cumming

Hi QC,

I’m 28, sexually active and enjoy dating and sex, apart from recently I started to find it difficult to cum. I don’t have any issues with getting erections and can hold them for hours, but when I’m with a guy seems that even though we BJ, JO and fuck for hours I just cant seem to cum.

This has gotten kinda embarrassing, last weekend I was with a date and he came fairly quickly but after trying to get me to cum for nearly 2 hours he gave up and said he was exhausted.

But then the weird thing was I just went to the bathroom and jerked off and came within a minute! So what the heck is wrong with me?

I don’t know whether this is a sign that something is going wrong down there and I need to see a urologist or if this is something psychological? The fact that up until now I’ve never had this problem and now all of a sudden its started has gotten me kinda anxious now and it seems worse with each date I go on 🙁

If there is anyone who has advice on what might be the cause (or remedy) of this I would really appreciate it!

Thanks,

Ryan David

Hi Ryan David and thanks for your questions and concerns. Difficulty in attaining orgasms each time you have sex is a problem that is more common than most people will admit. But you’re right to think that this could be caused either physically or psychologically and I would advise at the very least you talk with your Doctor regarding this. Having said that, I’m sure there are plenty of readers who have experienced a similar situation to yours and will be willing to offer their thoughts too. So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Ryan David in this situation? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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