Ask QC: Advice on improving my oral skills

Dear Ask QC,

I’m 21 but have only been into sex for just over a year now – as I’m studying I’m not looking for a long term relationship but generally just dating and some fun and sex at the weekends.

I’m still learning sex I guess, and I only starting fucking a few months ago, up until then it was mainly just making out, jerking off and some blow jobs. All of which, until recently, I thought I was pretty good at until now…

So I’ve been dating this guy for a few months, meeting up at weekends and making out and all. And I’ve been giving him lots of blow jobs and thought he was enjoying it till he just said to me recently that my oral skills need improving and they suck (but he wasn’t being funny, even though I laughed at the time). At first I really thought he was joking but then I saw his face and I was like WTF!?! But I kinda got over it and now I want to be able to give the best blow job ever – he’s been really good to me and I’m into him sexually so I want it to be the best. He’s currently overseas with his family for the next few weeks and so I want to be able to blow his mind (literally) when he returns so I want to know what I can do – are there any specific exercises I can do with my lips or tongue or anything like that? I have been trying to deep throat with a banana but I gag every time and nearly puke, is there anyway I can get over this?

If you got any ideas on how I can get better in my oral skills that would be great – thanks!

hugs,
Mikey

Hi Mikey and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Oral sex, like anything else is a skill that will improve over time and with practice. Perhaps your partner was being a bit blunt but we are all different and have differing sensitive spots, perhaps you can try a few different positions or learn from his technique? Keeping hydrated and moist is good as well as being careful with your teeth, generally wrapping your lips over your teeth will ensure you are not going to hurt the recipient. Concentrating on the glans (cock head) with your tongue until you feel a reaction in his body (or if he moans) will give you some clues as to what he likes too. It’s all about discovery so try and be as inventive as possible, eventually you will hit on something that gets to his sweet spot for sure! So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Mikey? Any tips on improving oral skills? If you have any ideas on how to help Mikey and his partner then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!

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