Dear QC:
I am a recent widower in my early 40’s. My wife of 25 years was truly my better half and losing her I also lost myself. My wife knew of my curious feelings and fantasies of looking at other men. My wife knew I loved her with all my heart and that I just looked at other men because I was jealous of them. I have never pursued anything outside our wonderful and honesty-based marriage, although I did fantasize. It’s been six weeks since her passing and now being alone, I know I will NEVER find another woman like her. In fact I’m not sure I want to look and wonder if it’s time for me to explore those other feelings.
I have a doctor that is becoming as much of a friend as he is my doctor. I go to lunch with him and he seems to loosen up to where I can see a different side of him that when he’s in the office. He claims he has a girlfriend and yet admits he has a feminine side. He is attractive and I have more than (friend) feelings for him. I want to get closer to him and have more physical contact with him but am afraid to scare him off. If I scare him off then it would be awkward to see him as my doctor. I feel he may be gay and say he has a girlfriend as a cover and I want to find out by kissing him and even satisfying him in other ways, but again, I’m afraid to scare him away. What do I do? Do I take the chance in scaring him away and losing a doctor?
Curious and Confused
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I recently met this guy who I absolutely adore, he’s gorgeous, sexy and everything I could want in a man. Although we have only known each other for a short while (2 months) I dearly want to spend the rest of my life with him – the thing is when I hinted at this he seemed quite put off by it, in fact he’s been making excuses not to meet ever since.
Do you think I have come on too strong too early? I know this is a difficult one to gauge but I don’t want to lose him by being too pushy, nor lose him by being aloof and not letting him know my feelings.
Quite recently he came out of a long-term relationship (7 years), whereas all my relationships have been fairly short, (1 year or less) and I wonder if its this that holds him back. He won’t talk about his past relationships so I don’t know how to approach him on this subject.
There is an age difference too between us, I’m 24 years old and he’s 36 years old, not that I see the age gap as a problem, although some of my friends say that the age difference and his past are the root of the problem.
I would appreciate it if anyone has any ideas to help me with this?
Confused In Love.
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Dear QueerClick
I’m 21 years old and at college and have been dating my boyfriend steady now for over a year. I really love him dearly and would love him to meet my family but I haven’t yet “come out” to them. This last holiday period was really difficult, especially all the innuendo from relatives about girl friends and even marriage!
I was wondering if you and the readers could assist with some ideas in helping me come out to my parents, family and friends? I realize that everyone has different experiences but I’m pretty sure coming out to friends at college won’t be a problem – it’s the family that I’m concerned about, especially my Dad and Mom who are quite religious (not that I have ever heard them make homophobic statements). I have a younger sister who, I think kinda suspects I’m gay and I get along well with her – would it be a good idea to come out to her first separately?
Any advice is most welcome.
In The Closet.
What say you, dear QC readers? Should In The Closet come out to his friends and sister first? What’s the best way to do so? Please feel free to share your own experiences to help him in the comments section. Have a question for QC? Send ’em to[email protected]and we’ll do our best to solve your problems!
What websites show videos for MAC computer users? It’s a problem, let me tell ya. Here I am at home, pants down, all lubed up and excited as HELL to watch the new Sean Cody boy on my new MAC computer. And when I try and load it…nothing. It’s a cruel twist of fate to have such a rad computer, but not to watch Sean Cody or Corbin Fisher!!! It aint’ right. Not watching hot gay porn is against God’s will and I can’t stand it anymore! I need something to fill the void, help QC. HELP!
Dear Steven,
Since a good number of QC editors are on Macs, we feel your pain. Blame it on Microsoft! Since most porn producers encode their videos using Microsoft’s digital rights management scheme (DRM), and since Microsoft doesn’t have a player for Mac, we aren’t able to view most videos.
Some sites encode their videos in Flash or do not use DRM, and will work on Macs. The handful that come to mind are You Love Jack, Randy Blue, Bang Bang Boys, Next Door Male sites, Bentley Race, Lucas Kazan Productions, UK Naked Men and VideoBoxMen. Sadly, Sean Codyand Corbin Fisher aren’t isn’t viewable on Macs.
The only way around this problem is to run Windows on top of your Mac using Apple’s Boot Camp (free) or software like Parallels (around $80). You’ll need to provide your own Vista license, but once you’re all set-up, you’ll be able to boot into Windows and watch videos as much as your hands can take.
Are there other Mac users who are as frustrated as Steven? What do you do to view your favorite porn? Did we miss sites that can be viewed on a Mac? Speak up in the comments.
I’ve got a really, really flat bum and even my boyfriend said so. I wonder is there anything that I can do about it because it gets to me sometimes. Maybe there is a certain type of workout or something I can do to plump up my butt? I remember once someone told me that you can actually work your bum out, but i don’t know how to and if it’s true or not. Help!
— Deflated
What say you, dear QC readers? Should Deflated be doing a certain type of exercise to plump up? Is there a bigger issue with his self-esteem? Sound off in the comments. Have a question for QC? Send ’em to [email protected] and we’ll do our best to solve your problems!
I have a boyfriend who is 27 and I’m 18. I am extremely self-conscious about my body and all that. Here’s the thing, not long ago my bf made a comment about hair on guys — obviously down there. He said he didn’t like the whole shaving thing, that natural is what he likes, but he actually hasn’t seen me down there yet. He likes natural and I hate it… I prefer trimmed, but I don’t know how to make it look nice and it’s always uneven and looks really bad. A couple weeks ago, I went crazy and now its really really short. Here’s my question: How can I trim it, not short and not long, and make it look nicer, or neat?
Trimmed and Confused
Dear readers, do you have any advice for our dear 18-year-old trimmer? Should he keep it natural as his boyfriend prefers? Seek a professional groomer to make it look even? Only have sex in the dark?
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