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This time domini asks:
Cumming On Time
hey guys…
i have this problem from a very long time and im just wondering if other folks are facing this kind of situation too. i have trouble reaching orgasm if i am having sex with someone. it doesnt matter if the guy im with is my type or not, i could not an orgasm if i dont jack myself off. and even then it takes an unusually long time to reach climax. i dont get this problem if i jack off, only when i have sex.
it places a burden on my boyfriend because he thinks i dont want to have sex with him. its making me anxious to cum and that makes it even more difficult for me to cum because of the anxiety. i have already explained to him, that this happened to me before, to all my previous hook-ups, but i know if he believes me. dont get me wrong, i have no problem getting an erection, i just i have difficulty cumming. think of it as a reverse pre-mature ejaculation, only i could go for hours and not cum, and its not as good as it may sound. any suggestion or insight on overcoming this? thanks.
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This time Ivoggo asks:
Anal Conundrum
So, I’m 21 years old, and I’ve been dating a 35-year old guy for the last year. I’ve had anal sex before, and I never really got turned on by it at the time, mostly because I was afraid an “accident” would occur, since I never douched… just washed up and hoped for the best. I was okay with big dicks (not too big, but you know… above average) and they never hurt me, so that wasn’t the problem either. So I let it go thinking “well, you got nervous and limp only because of not douching, but you’ll be turned on otherwise!”
Cut to present day, and I finally bought a douche, because I want to have sex with my boyfriend more often. It feels lovely to be clean and not have that tension of “OMG, will my tummy start gurgling in the middle?!” But I still don’t get turned on while he fucks me. I’m super turned on during foreplay, and even when he slides in. And I love the idea of him inside of me. But when he starts pounding me, in my head, I love it, but my dick thinks otherwise – it goes limp faster than you can say “stop going limp”. 😐 I get this squishy, uncomfortable feeling inside, and that’s what turns me off. I don’t know what to do about it. It gets very annoying because I want my boyfriend to feel like he’s pleasuring me too, and I *want* to feel the pleasure as well, but my mind just won’t cooperate, I guess. I have to start jerking off from scratch after he’s done fucking me, and that’s the biggest turn off, so the overall experience becomes quite frustrating.
Is there anything I can do about this? Can I train my mind to be turned on some other way during sex? Does it require practice? […] Continue Reading
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SEXUAL CONNECTIONS
So I’m not someone that hooks up all the time but recently I’ve become more open to it. So I’ve met a couple guys from an app and haven’t had the most satisfying experiences. Firstly, I am a top and consider myself to be sexually dominant. I didn’t even fuck either of these guys, which is fine because I’m generally more turned on by foreplay anyways. However, in both my experiences the guys were too rough for me. One of them, literally. But it’s an awkward situation because I want them to have a good time but I can’t seem to get my needs met. In both instances I did not orgasm. The first time I thought it was partially due to nerves and not feeling comfortable. But both times the guys were way too rough! I tried to communicate how I felt but it was harder the second time. I don’t know what it is…Maybe I’m just not used to voicing my needs in general… So now I’m wondering how do I find a guy who is more gentle and sensitive, and allows me to take the lead. Any advice would be welcome. Thanks!
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ACCIDENTIAL POOPING
I’ve been with my partner for 5 years. We met in college and moved in together after graduation. We are both versatile and had a great sex life until 5 months ago. While my partner was bottoming for me he accidentally pooped. He had no idea that it was going to happen. I actually could feel it hit the tip of my dick but I didn’t know what to do. I thought it might just stay in there so I kept going. Then I came and after I pulled my dick out of him and the poop came out of him at the same moment. It wasn’t all that big a deal to me. It was just one poop log. It wasn’t like it was some big mess. I got up to get tissues to pick up the poop but he took them from me and picked it up himself and flushed it. My partner was terribly embarrassed told me to shower first like I was bothered by his poop touching my dick. We didn’t even talk about it. I said it was no big deal but he didn’t answer me.
We still haven’t talked about it. It’s kind of like we haven’t talked about sex all. He stopped initiating sex. When I initiate it there are only certain things he’ll do. He’ll rim me, blow me and fuck me but I can only blow him and get fucked by him. Since the incident he has refused to let me rim him or bottom for me.
I’m pretty confused about his reaction. Nothing like this has ever happened to either one of us in our lives. We no longer use condoms and we’ve never even had the slightest bit of poop on our dicks. We haven’t had many partners before each other so our sex lives previous to each other has been limited so I’m not sure how common something like this can be. I miss him bottoming for me and I really miss rimming him since it’s one of my favorite things to do. I mean, so what, he pooped. He cleaned out before sex so it’s not like he was careless or anything, it was simply an accident. It doesn’t gross me out at all – this is the man I love and intend to spend my life with and, quite frankly, his poop doesn’t gross me out at all. It’s not like I’m into scat but I also don’t find his poop gross. So, where do I go from here? How do I get our sex life back on track? How can I help him to deal with his horror over this incident? I sincerely appreciate any help.
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