Ask QC: Suicidal Long-distance Love

Dear QC,
I am a loyal reader of the site and love to provide advice when I can. Now I find myself needing advice.

I’ve known this guy, lets call him Nick, for the past 4 years. When I met him I couldn’t stand him, and was actually lusting after his older brother (which was a huge mistake). I did like Nick a little bit when I did meet him though. Thought he was a great guy. Well something happened (a lot of drama) and we lost touch with each other about a year later.

Now on to what I need advice on. About two months ago, I was doing something on my computer. When out of the blue I get a message from someone I don’t recognize and it turns out to be Nick. We talk the entire day and even into the next without any sleep at all. About a week later I realized that I like him…a lot. It wasn’t long after that that he told me that he loved me. I have always had trust issues, but I thought that it’s time to take a chance at love again. So I let him get close to me. And I love him more than most people can love in their own lifetime. Well He’s been talking about suicide because he wants to be out of where he lives (lives in Canada) and go to New York then come here to where I live. But with money and finances the way it’s at with both of us, it’s not looking like it’s going to happen on time. And he’s been talking about suicide and I can’t lose him. I don’t know what to do about this. I’ve beat myself up so much and I’ve cried. I don’t know what to do about this. He’s 20 and I’m 24.

Needing help with advice.

Garrett

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