Ask QC: His Friend Is Hitting On Me

Dear QueerClick,

I recently started dating a special guy. We’re both about 30 and he’s handsome, considerate, cute, intelligent, a good kisser and well-hung—excellent! He’s been really great and has introduced me to lots of his friends, which has been awesome… they’re all so creative, intelligent, engaging and handsome. Here’s the problem though, one of his friends is definitely into me. His friend is a nice and very handsome guy who lives in New York and if I hadn’t just started dating his buddy, he’s the sort of guy I’d totally jump into the sack with. So I’m not sure what to do.

I wanna give the guy I’m dating a fair chance and be honest with him, but I don’t know how to handle his friend. The last time I saw this friend, he gave me an extra long hug and made sure our cheeks were touching. He kisses me hello and goodbye and says things like “You’re so adorable.” He’s a nice, sexy guy and he invited me to go out and have drinks with him in my upcoming visit to the city, but I’m worried that if we do that he’ll try something.

I’m a grown man and I don’t want to get my new beau involved; this is between me and his friend. But I’m also unsure what to say or do about his friend that won’t make a big deal out of this. Truth is, his friend and I could benefit from each other’s friendship and we only see each other sometimes, so how should I handle this? Should I do everything possible to distance myself from his pal (that is, not ever call him and avoid him in public)? Should I say something to his pal, and if so, what? I’ve gotten in trouble in the past from not keeping my hands to myself and I don’t want to ruin my chances with my fella just because of my horniness or his tempting friend.

Any advice would help.

Why is it that as soon as you start dating someone hot guys start coming out of the woodworks? This is an ages old problem, but what’s the best way to handle a randy friend? In our opinion, this guy should just ignore the pal’s advances, make clear that he’s not interested, and then distance himself, but that’s just us. What do you think, QC readers? Is there a better way to handle this without making a too big deal about it? Please share your experiences and advice in the QComments section.
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