Ask QC: My BF slept with thousands of men… and it bothers me!

Hi guys, here is my problem.

I’m 25 years old and my BF is 35. I started to have sex at around 23, 24. Quite “late” but in a way, I tried to compensate by trying different experiences: cruising bars, SM, threesomes… I was not a sex addict, though and only went to those things when I was feeling horny.

The thing is that after asking several questions to my BF about his sexual experiences I realized that he’s slept with thousands, literally, thousands of men. For instance, he told me that from 23 to 25 he had slept with more than 500 different guys!

Now, I can’t help but having images of him and those guys in my head. I’m lost. It’s eating me up inside and destroying something that could be very special. He keeps telling me that it doesn’t matter, that I’m his man, but sometimes, I’m just in a real spin and can’t stop thinking about anything else which brings me to not being able to share the good moments we can have.

HELP ME PLEASE!

Thanks,

L.

Hi L and thanks for writing in, seems like you are having a difficult time getting through this, perhaps our dear QC readers can help? So how would you help L? Have you had issues with your current BF’s past? Is sleeping with thousands of men too much? Or not enough? If you can help L in any way, or have been in a similar situation then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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