Ask QC: How Do I Ask/Get This Guy to Be My Boyfriend?!

Hi QC,

I met this guy online a few weeks back when he sent me a message. He’s just a couple of years older and we just clicked instantly, chatting for hours! Unlike all the other guys on the site, in no way whatsoever have either of us even tried to mention about our love life/interests. I know for a fact that he’s single, and he also knows I’m single. I don’t know how he feels about me, but I have an inkling that he does like me.

Whenever we text, I would try to be flirty with my messages but still downplay it enough to seem just friendly. It’s not that I don’t like him, it’s just that I feel that he’s gonna be different from the rest, and I really just wanna take it slow! BUT, he’s doing the same thing and gosh it’s confusing me! I don’t know if he’s just being a friendly gay guy or he’s serious about me!

I had made him something for his birthday recently, and so we met up for a short couple of minutes as I had things on. He seemed to really bother what I thought about him when we met, and I presumed that’s another sign? But again maybe it’s just cause, like me, he’s a fashion-forward gay guy.

Stalker-mode on, I spied on his profile, and discovered he stopped going to the site right after we exchanged numbers! This is a good sign, isn’t it??

We’re gonna meet next week for dinner, and I’m probably gonna ask him if he wants to be my boyfriend. I just don’t have the patience to wait for him to ask me! But how do I do that guys? My ex-boyfriend was the one who initiated the relationship, and the other person I dated was a girl! Me being single and wanting a boyfriend again now probably signals how much of a success those relationships were huh?

So guys, please help me! How do I ask him out, and what do you think his reaction is gonna be?

It’d be fantastic if you guys could help me! Thanks!!!

JW

Hi JW and thanks for writing in with your questions. Let’s hope we published your letter in time before that all important dinner date? But if not, then lets hope it went as planned! How you approach someone and ask them to be your boyfriend is probably as varied as there are different men out there! But hopefully our dear QC readers have plenty of advice and tips on this subject! What advice would you give? Have you ever been in similar situation? Did it work out (or not) for you? Is there a perfect way to ask a guy to be your beau or is there something you should definitely avoid? If you can help JW in any way, or have been in a similar situation before then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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