Ask QC: I Can’t Take Dick!

Dear QC,

So my boyfriend and I have been trying anal for the past three years. However, he’s my first so I’m super tight and usually remain super tight. It also doesn’t help that his gorgeous cock is extremely thick and so when it gets inside it hurts.

We’ve tried anbesol to numb my hole but I can still feel the sting of the stretch when he’s in. The only way he can get past my hole is if I jerk off but then I feel like cumming right away and pushing him out!

Once inside, I just feel general discomfort. It’s a mix of pain and like something is jamming my insides. Unconsciously, I keep squirming away from his dick when we’re in missionary.

When I met him I thought I was a complete bottom but as we went on I have become more versatile. The thing is I really want to bottom and ride his dick like a bad bitch! I’d like to stay away from poppers as to not rely on them so I’m really at a loss on what to try.

I mean, I don’t even like fingering myself or using my dildos for the same reason!

Please help me QC!

Signed,

Desperately wanting to ride cock

Hi there and thanks for writing in with your question. Being able to have anal sex with your partner can be amazing but does require a certain amount of practice and to find the technique that suits you both. Looking back through the archives there has been some great advice given in the past Teach Me Your Anal Douching Secrets, Oh Wise Ones, Bottoming Hurts Too Much! What Am I Doing Wrong?, I’m A Virgin And Unsure How To Have Sex!, Help Me Become An Awesome Bottom!, It Hurts When I Bottom! and The Art of Shaving. But of course, we’re always happy to dish up a sprinkling of new advice too! So if you can help answer any of these questions and more, or have any other advice to offer, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!