Ask QC: Help Me Become An Awesome Bottom!
Long story short: bottoming hurts and I usually end up biting the pillow and moaning and convulsing from the painful intensity of it instead of the pleasure. I mean, I like the physical closeness and intimacy of sex and it pleases me to give my partner pleasure. But for me, there’s nothing really erotic about having my ass pummeled. I know of some guys who LOVE bottoming. I’m always amazed at porn stars and guys on XTube who can stay hard while getting fucked. And I go cross-eyed when I hear of guys who actually cum while getting fucked—what?!!
I’m 30 and have been getting fucked for almost a decade now, but I guess I must be doing it wrong. As I age, I’m beginning to feel like I’m a real crummy bottom. I just kinda let the guy violate my ass while gritting my teeth. I’m not sensuous or in any sort of control or ecstasy. Meanwhile, I’ve fucked a few bottoms who are awesome and whenever I ask “How do you do it?” They always smile and act like their skill is some big tantric secret that they can’t articulate.
Please help me. I wanna learn how to be a more capable and sensual bottom and I’m willing to take instruction, change my attitude, and put in the practice. But I feel like I need simple, easy to understand notes about how to insert the cock without feeling too much pain, how to get their cock to stimulate my prostate, and how to ride it for a long time without getting tired of the nonstop hurt. I feel cut off from an entire aspect of my pleasure as it is. I want to enjoy having sex with the men that I love as much as they do. I’d love to be one of those guys who can stay hard, derive pleasure, and even cum from getting fucked.
Thanks
Bottoming can be a tricky business for even the most seasoned porn star. And it seems that everyone has their own bag of tricks when it comes to turning it out and spreading their legs open wide for the right fuckstud. It sounds like our advice seeker wants to be having a lot more fun, so what’s to be done? Should he practice with toys? Read a book? Masturbate more often? Find the right-sized dick? Practice breathing? We need you awesome bottoms to help this blossoming butt become all that he can be! Please share your advice and experiences in the QComments.
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