Ask QC: Kissing

Dear Ask QC,

I’m 25 years old and have been dating guys for about 6 years. Before I started dating guys, I dated girls hoping that I would change and that I would turn out straight, I didn’t. I can understand why I didn’t enjoy kissing girls because I was actually gay.

Then when I started dating guys and we would kiss it was not something I thought was pleasant, arousing, sexual or enjoyable. I found it to be gross and don’t understand the appeal.

What is so romantic or sexual about someones tongue in your mouth or yours in theirs and swapping spit? It’s gross on every level. There has to be other guys out there like me who think this is gross?

How do you get around kissing without hurting your partners feelings? It’s gotten to the point that I sometimes feel like gagging. I almost don’t want to date or have a boyfriend again.

I feel so abnormal but I’m hoping there are other guys out there that feel like I do so I don’t feel abnormal and also hoping for as much advice as I can get because my feelings about kissing are not going to change.

Thanks, RC.

Hi RC and thanks for your question, we always welcome any concerns our readers have (no matter how unusual some may think they are!) We also understand that not everyone likes the same thing, and whilst many people enjoy kissing that’s not to say it’s for everyone. So dear QC readers what advice would you give? Do you like kissing? Do you find it repulsive? Have you experienced dislike in the past and overcome that now? What experiences can you share with RC and what advice would you give? If you can help RC in any way, or have been in a similar situation then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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