Ask QC: Why do I think this way?

Dear Ask QC,

I am a 20 year old college student and came out before coming to college. I’ve had sex only about three times and over the past couple months I’ve realized that the way I think about certain gay “topics” isn’t what I want it to be.

I’ve met a couple gays and befriended them but when I hear that they really want to hookup with this other guy, I tend to get jealous and think weird about the whole situation. It may be that I’m attracted to them or the fact I don’t have guys asking to hookup with me.

I also met a guy in San Francisco and realized how open sexually it is out there. He’s in an open relationship and has the urge to get head in a park and in a bar in the same day. I don’t know why I seem so weirded out and turned off by it. My friend said its maybe the fact that I think gays are penis and sex crazy, but so are straight people but it doesn’t seem as promiscuous and gays seem more horny than straight guys.

What can I do to go about changing the way I’m looking upon the gay sex life?

AJ

Hi AJ and thanks for writing in with your interesting question! College life may not be entirely representative of all gay peoples sex lives, but it’s definitely a period when there is more sexual activity! But that’s not to say that all gay men are chasing cock constantly! So dear QC readers, what are your opinions on this? What can AJ do to change the way he’s looking upon gay sex life? If you can help him in any way, or have been in a similar situation then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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