Ask QC: I have a dark secret…
Hi Ask QC,
I’ve met an absolutely gorgeous man online, initially we met a few times and dated, just dinner, movies, etc at first. He’s the perfect gentleman, funny, sexy, but as things progressed and much to my amazement, we’ve both fallen in love – hook, line and sinker!
I guess under normal circumstances this would be wonderful news, and it is BUT, the thing is I have a very dark secret – I’m an Escort.
I know I should have been honest and open with him from the beginning but I felt he would have rejected me had I said I was an escort, and I was more interested in him as a date and not a client. So I lied and told him I was a freelance model and photography assistant, which he accepted.
The thing is, he’s now asked that I move in together with him – and its something that I very much want to do – but I feel very much trapped now. Financially I can’t afford to give up my escort work, and I know how much people look down on someone like myself for doing this type of work. So if I give up the work and move in I won’t have any financial means to support myself, but if I tell him the truth I’m very sure he will reject me and that will be the end.
I’m sure there will be some commenters here who will flame me, say its my fault or tell me I’m a tramp, but they have not had the same circumstances that I have had in order to make a living. And all’s that I have ever wanted was to be in love and find a man who loves me too – I feel so lucky and yet so doomed too.
Any advice on what to do?
Kyle
Hi Kyle and thanks for your question and concerns. It sounds like a difficult, but not impossible situation. And don’t presume that everyone looks down on the adult or escort industry (take a look at high profile couple Marc Jacobs and Harry Louis for example!) So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give? Should Kyle tell his new love? Or should he just give up his escort work and hope that his new partner doesn’t find out? If you can help Kyle in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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