Ask QC: Characteristics I don’t like about myself but others find attractive

Dear QC,

Do any of your readers deal with this? It seems I can’t be the only one. How do you handle it if someone finds you attractive (esp. sexually attractive) for a trait that you yourself don’t like/hate about yourself? What if someone finds you attractive because you’re fat, but you wish you were skinny, and vice versa. Or if someone finds you attractive because you’re an older man but you wish you looked younger, and vice versa? Have a lot of hair/are bald, pale/dark, tall/short, etc.

How do you stay in the mood if someone is in bed with you verbally turned on by something about your body that you wish was different?

KW Guy

Hi KW Guy and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. It’s probably true that all of us have some aspect about ourselves (physical or otherwise) that we wish were different or that we could change. And, thankfully, we aren’t all attracted to the same things, but having a partner who is especially turned on by something you really don’t like about yourself can be rather challenging. So, dear QC readers, do any of you have physical traits that your partner loves but you hate? Have you been able to overcome this? What tips and advice would you give KW Guy? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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