Ask QC: How to be better in bed?

Hi QC,

I’m 22 years old and have recently become sexually active, really active lol. I’ve been hooking up more and guys actually notice me now, which has been good for my self-esteem, but I’ve hit a major bump.

I really really like oral sex, however topping and bottoming is something I just can’t get into. The times I want to top I go flaccid as soon as I see a condom, and the times I bottom it hurts like hell and I feel the need to go to the bathroom. Both of these situations make me feel insecure about my performance in bed, because I just wanna be an awesome bed partner.

Do you guys have any tips on what I could do to enjoy anal sex more?

Thanks for the help guys!

Ülrich

Hi Ülrich and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. We all have to go through a learning process, especially when it comes to sex. And getting nervous and losing an erection is quite common. We’ve had some previous “Ask QC’s” on some of the topics and these may help;
1. Anal sex lube advice please!
2. Anal preparation
3. Help me become an awesome bottom
4. Why can’t I get hard bottoming for big dicks
5. My first fuck
6. What’s the best way to douche before anal sex
7. I love anal but I can’t do it
8. How to receive butt sex properly
9. I can’t take dick
10. Anal sex lube advice please
11. I go soft every time I try to top
12. A 24 year old with erectile dysfunction?
So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Ülrich? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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