Ask QC: My boyfriend wants to go public – in weird places

Dear Ask QC,

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, so far our sex has been really good, in fact each time we meet up it gets better – he’s full of suggestions and ideas and really does keeps it interesting.

We are both in our 30’s, working and have our own apartments, so meeting up is usually after work hours and weekends but with an occasional lunch time session if either of us are in the neighborhood.

Recently though, his requests have been getting a bit more bizarre and (I feel) reckless – although I like the sound of it, he’s suggested doing it over his desk at work (after hours) and outdoors in public places (bathrooms, hotels, parks, etc). Sure yeah I’m getting turned on by the idea of it but we don’t actually have to do it in a park – we both have our own places to do it.

And I’m also a bit worried about getting caught, the implications (legally or otherwise), he says I’m being too limiting but I’m not comfortable with this (yet). Do you guys have any good (safe) tips for outdoor or public sex, I get it that he is thrilled by the idea that we “might” get caught, but to me that’s not exciting, more like worrying. Any ideas how I can get over this, or safe places to suggest that will suit the both of us?

I would really appreciate any advice – thanks!

Nic

Hi Nic and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. If there is one thing we know about sex and that is people will literally do it anywhere they can! The level of risk is what thrills some people, and of course it’s also that risk that mortifies others. We are sure there must be some places though that fulfil both your partners desires and your level of comfort too, so we will put that out to our dear QC readers to make some suggestions. So guys, if you have any ideas or suggestions on how to help Nic and his partner then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!

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