Ask QC: Dirty Bottom OCD

Dear QueerClick,

After years of only going as far as giving and receiving blow jobs, I recently started having anal sex. In all scenarios, I have always bottomed because I am a clean freak who borders on OCD. I laboriously clean and prep myself whenever I go out in the event that I do hook up with someone. I don’t want any accidents while in the mist of getting it on and fortunately haven’t ran into any.

My problem is, I don’t want to always bottom. There have been numerous instances where I have wanted to top a guy but my clean freak tendencies cause me to worry about whether or not the guy has bothered to go through the cleaning process as thoroughly as I have. (I highly doubt anyone goes through as thorough a cleaning process! =P)

So the question is, what are the rules of etiquette if fecal matter does happen to become present during sex? We are talking about the ass after all. I’m sure it has happened to numerous guys. How do I handle myself? Is it okay to ask if a guy is clean down there before we begin play? Do I ignore its presence and continue? Is it rude to stop to address it? Is it rude to stop all together? What’s the standard procedure?

I don’t know what to do and would love some help. Any past scenarios and how it was handled would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Clean Seeker

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