Ask QC: I Only Like to Watch

Dear QC,

I’m writing in as I have a sort of fetish (I think it is?) but it’s definitely a problem for when I try to meet up with other guys and to find a boy friend. It’s really preventing me from getting into a steady relationship, something I really want, so I just wondered if there are a) any guys out there who have the same preference as me and b) are their guys out there would want to be in a relationship with someone who has my ‘fetish’.

And when I say fetish I’m not even really sure if this is classified as one (I think the term might be voyeur but I’m not really sure). The thing is, I’m gay and I totally adore the male body but don’t want to have any physical contact with it or in a relationship. In fact what I want is to watch a guy masturbate but there has to be a certain amount of ‘distance’ between us.

I’m sure this sounds pretty weird to a lot of you, but my ideal boy friend would be someone who enjoys stripping for me and masturbating whilst I watch. Also they would not want me to touch them at all. I’m not sure if I will ever find a guy like this, I’m 22 now and although I’ve dated, I’ve always been a disappointment when its got to the stage where we are supposed to have sex. I had one miserable failed attempt when I hooked up with a guy recently, he did masturbate for me but then left before he ejaculated and said it was just too weird for him with me only watching and not being involved. I do like to jerk off but not at the same time, and so I think that may have helped if I did that?

I hope you don’t mind me asking this question here, I’ve been a big fan of QC for a few years now and I get so turned on by watching solo jerk off sessions, it just seems natural to me that I would want to be in the presence of a guy doing that for me. I really want to know, would there be a boyfriend for me out there who would take me for what I am. I guess they would have to be a bit exhibitionist and enjoy masturbating in front of me but not want to have any physical contact with me. Sorry this email is so long, its sort of difficult to describe or try to explain fully, but I would really like to hear from anyone who knows about this or has experience of it or knows where I can meet guys like this?
Thanks
Mikey R.

We all have our sexual preferences and there are many different types of relationships out there. What experiences and advice would you give Mikey, dear QC readers? Please feel free to share your own experiences and advice to help him in the comments section.
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