Ask QC: My Boyfriend Want To Move In, But Should We?

Hi… this is going to be so obvious if he reads this… haha.

So I am a freshman at NYU, which is like gay heaven. Anyway, I am on the verge of coming out and telling my friends that I am bi. Before moving in, I was in a relationship with a girl from my high school. This lasted about a month into school. Three weeks after the breakup, I find myself smoking a bowl with two of my suitemates in their room watching television. One of them falls asleep on his bed and I am left alone with the other, who then asks to exchange massages. Clever plan. With my roommate out of town, the two of us end up in my bed, exchanging blow jobs. After a while, this becomes a weekly event, and develops into a relationship.

We are now officially secret-dating. Next year, I am considering getting an apartment instead of living on campus. The only problem is, he wants to move in with me. At the moment, I am sleeping with my roommate. But if he moves into an apartment with me it changes to living with my boyfriend. I don’t know if I’m ready for this. But he really is my best friend and I have no clue who else to ask to be my roommate anyway. I kind of feel trapped. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I don’t want to be trapped in a relationship for another year. Or be trapped in an apartment, which my homophobic parents would be paying for with possibly my future ex-boyfriend. I think it would be fucking awesome to be able to have sex whenever we wanted in our apartment, but I know that it’s a bad idea.

I am so bad at making friends. I would say that I am a pretty likeable guy. But since moving to New York, I think I have developed a social anxiety. This would probably be the reason that I’m in a relationship with my suitemate, who is basically the only friend I have… and only option I have for a roommate next year.

What the hell should I do?

Mike

PS: Does anybody know any good gay nightclubs/bars in NYC that are 18+ orrrr look the other way with crappy fakes…?

Oh college! Is any other time in life as awesomely new and hopelessly awkward? We’re not so sure that moving in Mike’s secret beau is the best option, but how’s a teenage bisexual supposed to find a decent, non-serial killer roommate in the Big Apple? And if Mike tells his boyfriend no, how can he do so without upsetting his lover. Also how can Mike find a club that will let a youngin’ through the door? NYC can be an intimidating place, especially when you’re just finding your way. Can anyone give Mike a good street map so he can find where Happiness Street intersects with Good Decisions Avenue? Yes, we just wrote that. So many questions! Leave your experience and advice in the QComments section!
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