Ask QC: HPV and Dating Someone New

Hi QC,

So, I’m 24, but fairly new on the sex-having scene. Got warts from a partner a few months ago (ugh), and I’ve been getting them treated. They’ve mostly gone away, but there’s still a few stubborn ones kicking around the ol’ butthole. Seems like they’ll be cleared up within the next few weeks (fingers crossed.)

The problem is I just met someone new. We’ve had two great dates, spent the night together the second time but didn’t do anything below the waist. The next time we see each other though, if it happens, it seems likely that sex would be in the works. I’m a bottom and they’re anal so…you get the picture.

What’s the protocol? Should I just come clean on our next date? Is that going to freak him out? Do I try to stall for a few weeks and see if they go away? Not trying to be devious or irresponsible here…just looking for data points and wisdom.

Thanks!

NK

Hi NK and thanks for your question and concerns. It’s good to hear that you’re being treated and taking your condition seriously and with responsibility. I’m sure there are plenty of guys here who’ve been faced with a similar situation to yours, either with the same type of condition themselves or with a partners condition. We have had questions previously on Ask QC regarding the treatment of HPV but this didn’t address the issue of how to tell your partner. So, dear QC readers, if you can help NK in any way with your own experiences and how to handle this situation, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section.
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