Ask QC: How can I get over him?

Dear Ask QC,

I have been in a steady relationship for 7 years, and until very recently I thought everything was going fine. That was until just before Christmas when I got home after work and my boy friend was leaving our home with all his stuff.

I guess if I hadnt gotten home early that day I might not have even seen him, as he had planned to just leave a note on the kitchen table and walk out. Although I did talk with him for a couple of hours he just said he was leaving, it wasn’t working out and that he had to live his own life.

To say I was devastated would be an understatement, I was in a state of shock and numb for days. I couldn’t eat, work or sleep. And I still don’t think he gave me any real valid reasons for splitting up – its not like we used to argue or fight, our sex was great (at least I thought so) and we were socialized together.

The embarrassing part is that when I told my friends about it, they all (well most of them) knew that he would do this. Yet no one said anything to me at the time, I feel so depressed and low knowing this. I can’t stop thinking about how this has happened and really feel I can’t get over him.

My questions are, how will I be able to recover from this? What should I do to stop these pattern of thoughts that just keep going around in my head? My heart still loves him but I now know he won’t come back – I don’t know what I did wrong, he hasn’t answered any of my calls or texts for months since he walked out on me.

I would really appreciate any advice on this – thanks guys…

Love n hugs,

Reid xoxo

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