Ask QC: How can I live up to our online sexual expectations?

Dear Ask QC,

I live outside the city in a small country town with not much opportunity to meet up with other gay guys. Until I can move to the city, my only chance to contact other guys has been online.

Over the last few months I’ve been chatting with a guy in the next state, he’s really hot (27, I’m 18) and its gotten really steamy with our chats recently – to the point where we’ve been describing everything in detail what we’re gonna do together.

So finally we’ve decided to meet up half way and stay over at a motel for the night, the thing is, now I’m getting really nervous about this. I’ve exaggerated the amount of things I can do sexually (I’ve never fucked before) and also the things we’re gonna do together.

Now I’m worried I won’t be able to live up to his (or my own) sexual expectations and I don’t know what to do. I really want to meet him but also I don’t want to disappoint him or for it to be a complete disaster in the bedroom – any ideas how I can fix this?

Quinn

Hi Quinn and thanks for your questions and concerns. We all get nervous before meeting up with a new date, even if we’ve got to know them online for a while. Online dating and hooking up through apps, its quite usual now for guys to meet up like this, but of course everyone here would advise that you exercise caution and only meet in a public place, that’s the sensible thing to do. If things work out after meeting up and you both decide to take things further that’s where you need to define your boundaries with what you’re comfortable with doing (and even if your online chats have gone really too far already it won’t hurt to redefine these boundaries before you meet up face to face). So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Quinn? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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