Ask QC: Did having sex ruin our bromance?

Dear Ask QC,

Me and a male friend of mine recently started messing around. Things were going great until he decided to have a threesome with him and his gf. When I approached the room to join them, she got very very pissed, to the point where she left his apartment. About 5-10 mins later, after she didn’t return, I went to his room. He was naked (probably waiting on me) and we started having some fun. He turned his butt towards me and I put my dick inside of him, and fucked him.

A couple days later, I recieved a text from him stating he’s done with everything and he needs time for himself!!!!!.WTF!!!!!

I don’t know what to do or say because even though I LOVED the new aspect of our friendship, I don’t want to lose my friend over this. And he won’t talk to me about it either. Is he embarrassed by it, did he like it too much, or maybe he didn’t like it, and is trying to be nice about it. Do you have any suggestions about what I should do?

S.

Hi S and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns.. Technically by definition a bromance is a close but non-sexual relationship between two men. In your circumstances it sounds as though the limit of those boundaries were exceeded before you guys had actually discussed or thought about it. The fact his girl friend stormed out would also indicate the idea of a three some hadn’t been discussed with her either. That said, this doesn’t have to be the end of a good friendship but it may take some time before he is ready to be able to discuss it with you. Tell him what is important to you, the fact that you value your friendship together and yes, you enjoyed the sexual side of it too. Perhaps he was experimenting and testing his own limitations too, but without any discussion with him it will only be speculation. So dear QC readers, what advice would you give S? Has anyone experienced a similar situation before? If so, where you able to resolve it and how? If you can help him in any way then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!

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