Ask QC: Is My HIV A Deal Breaker For Negative Guys?

I am an 18-year-old boy who 3 weeks ago was diagnosed with HIV. It was my first time and i was drunk and it was with my boyfriend of a few months. I am since on meds and on my way to feeling better.

The relationship has since ended and I have been talking to this guy who I really like and i’m sure he is negative but I am afraid that if I tell him my status now it will ruin what we have and it will end. I am sure that in the course of my lifetime me telling people my status will ruin some of my romantic relationships. My question is, is finding out your partners positive HIV status a deal breaker for most people?

I’m not afraid of telling him; so far when I told my close friends and family they have been surprisingly supportive and understanding. I’m just afraid of the relationship going south. So is it common for people who are HIV negative to have relations and relationships with positive people?

It’s Valentine’s Day so we wanted to help this young lad in search of love. He wants an honest and fulfilling love life, but will his HIV status send his new love south? And is there a way he can break the news without making it the centerpiece of his affection? We would suggest he read old Ask QCs like When Should I Admit I’m HIV+ and I’m Negative, Should I Date A Positive Guy?. But beyond that, what do you recommend? Please share your opinions and advice in the QComments below.
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