Ask QC: I Promised I’d Date Him When He Came Out, But I Like Someone Else Too!

[Editor’s Note: Wow… Did QC readers respond to this letter, some albeit too antagonistically! We have chosen to hold back the not-so-kindly-phrased comments. Be kind with your words guys. Let’s try to look at the bigger picture, be less offended by the choice of words and see how we can help this student along!]

Please help! I’m a 20-year-old student in Louisiana who recently met a really cute guy on campus. His name is Shale (like the rock) and he’s got a chili-bowl haircut, is dorky, really lanky, and has the face of a chipmunk—soooo cute!

The only problem is that I promised a good friend of mine that if he ever came out, I would totes get with him. Well he just came out to his parents—they still love him because he’s their only child and now he wants to date. He’s like, totes hilair, totes buff, and totes fun to be with—we get along like two crazy kittens. But the only problem? HE LIVES IN HOUSTON!!! Oh noes!!!

My fag hag told me, “Don’t leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one you love.” But she’s never had a real boyfriend and she’s an alky, so I need advice from real gay dudes with real gay lives, like me.

If me and Mr. Houston could make it work long distance, I know we would end up together forever because that’s just how close we are (we like talk a few times every week and post funny shit on each other’s Facebook walls—SUPER POKE!!!). I would totes make him my hubs forever, but Shale rocks the casbah too.

SO CONFUSED!!! What do I dooooo???

I know you will not lead me astray, porn dudes.

Thanks a mint,
Mickey

Anyone who’s ever tried a long-distance relationship knows it’s hard going, especially when you’re so young and interested in other people. And 20-year-olds ready for marriage? Who are you, Juliet? What’s the rush, Lady Capulet? Perhaps you should wait it out until you’re both done with school or maybe it’s best to strike while the iron is hot—after all, why delay a good thing? But what do you think, QueerClickers? What would be fair for Mickey, Mr. Houston, and Shale as well? It’s not cool to keep a guy waiting, but it’s even less cool to date one while pining for the other. So what do you think? Please leave your advice, opinions, and experience in the QComments section.
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