My boyfriend has, on multiple occasions, voiced to other people in my presence that he is never getting it “up the ass”. Him and I have yet to have that conversation directly.
I am 100% versatile and demand positions be shared 50/50. There is no way I will be the only one getting fucked in a relationship, it takes me back to the 50’s mindset of male/female roles. I refuse to have any part of that and need to feel equal in my relationships.
Is it possible to convert a top? If not, does anyone know if a relationship with two tops is possible?
Thanks,
David.
Can a Top and a Versatile go long term? Is it right that David voices his opinions about their sex life with other people? Is it possible to convert a top to the role of versatile? And do relationships with two tops work? If you can help David answer any of these questions and more, or have any other advice to offer him, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
There’s a very attractive married man who’s expressed interest in me. We never get to talk in a setting where we can openly address what’s going on. It’s always very coded and secretive. I’ve never been as physically attracted to someone as I am to him, but I can’t get past the fact that he’s married.
I’m no angel, but I feel like sleeping with a married man is such a hurtful thing to do to his wife, whom I’ve never met. If she ever found out, I’d have no excuse. I’d have to admit that I slept with her husband just because I thought he was irresistibly hot. But then I wonder if maybe they have an arrangement of some kind and she’d be ok with it. But we only get to interact where other people are always around.
I have no idea how to broach the topic in a way that (1) allows for the possibility that he might be coming out and (2) doesn’t make me feel dirty and dishonest. I don’t know how to handle this.
C.
Married men can be HOT! But should we cave in to our sexual desires? Is this married man trying to signal that he’s ‘coming out’? How should C. handle this situation? If you can help with any of these questions and more, or have any other advice to offer C. then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I am 27 year old good looking guy, have everything I need in life, I am a very sexual person and I am very much into watching gay porn to help me pleasure myself.
The only problem I have is that I masturbate differently compared to most men out there. I will find a table, and then using the blunt edge of the cornered table, press against it with my pubic bone just right on top of my penis shaft. I then lean on to it and until I’m able to raise my two feet at a level and keep pressing until I cum. I’ve been doing this technique ever since I can remember masturbating and the thing that bothers me is that it is difficult to tell other guys about it since it is unusual.
I am also a bottom and most guys that I’ve had sex with say that its my turn to wank right after they have topped me and I have to either tell them that I can’t do it this time or that I simply can’t do it at all. I know it upsets and disappoints my partner when this happens. I tried opening up and talking to a guy about my unusual technique once and he was OK with it but I’m never sure how other guys will react.
And I’ve tried masturbating the usual way of my hand stroking my penis with one hand but it just doesn’t work for me. I believe now that this is holding me back from meeting up with other great guys out there who would love to have some fun. I’ve been considering seeking help from either a psychologist or a urologist (specializing in the male reproductive system) but I would like to know the opinion of the readers here on what I should do first. Later on in life, if I decide to settle down with a guy I love, I want to know how we are going to deal with this and how is it going to affect our sexual activities together.
Please help me.
Thanks,
The Germanboy.
Weird masturbation technique or not we all have our different ways of getting our rocks off! So is this such a weird way to masturbate or not? What advice would you give Germanboy? Do any of you also masturbate like this? And if so has it affected your relationships or not? If you can help Germanboy answer any of these questions and more, or have any other advice to offer him, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
So I’ve been seeing a guy for a while and we really like each other. He makes me smile, laugh, and treats me well, and I know I do the same for him. We have almost no problems between us, our sex life is great, except one aspect of it.
I like to swallow, and he loves it when I swallow, yet his sperm tastes gross! I’m talking oily and it almost makes me throw up each time. I don’t want to have to cut out a favorite part of my sex life and deprive him of one of his favorite acts to see me do, but I don’t think I can take another dose of it.
Is there something we can do to make it taste less gross, or something I can use to counteract the taste of it?
Signed,
Jizz Addicted
Bad tasting cum, what to do? Does everyone’s cum taste different? Do we all love the taste of cum? Can you change the flavor of cum? Or is there a way you can neutralize the effects of that taste? Will the taste grow on you over time? Or should we even be tasting or swallowing cum? If you can help Jizz Addicted answer any of these questions and more, or have any other advice to offer him, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
This past week my hubby and I, together for many years, decided to try a three-way and we chose the Escort route, using a well-known national website. We had specific wants and decided a professional would allow us greater say, especially as first-timers, as well as have knowledge and experience in ensuring a good time was had by us, the client. We live in a large urban area.
Ultimately we made arrangements with an escort to come to our home, and involve us together for 90 minutes, for which a fee of $500 was requested and agreed up. As this dude was handsome, with a buff and muscular bod and had done some porn films, we believed we had selected the right guy for us. I Skyped him per his request and we video chatted for an hour several days before the appointment, I liked what I saw. We discussed needs, wants, and my gear fetish 😉 He was nice looking, a hot bod, quite personable, and when he showed up, über-clean. A friendly guy, he dropped his shorts, pulled on a tiny bikini showing his big bulge and came out to the pool to sun with us and chat before we really got going. He advertised as TOP only, said he rarely bottomed anymore. All in all, we had fun with him and it was a good first-time experience.
My question is, without a formal contract and in a non-legal situation such as this, what do you do when your hired professional doesn’t completely deliver? If a TOP can’t stay hard enough to fuck, what do you do? Stop everything and say adios? Say afterwards, what’s up, why’d that (or rather didn’t) happen? Is an adjustment of the agreed fee in order? We got our full time with him, and then some, and it was generally a rewarding experience and we’re glad we tried it, yet it was partially disappointing. Also, naturally, it felt somewhat awkward to discuss afterwards the failure to fuck. Not that it should matter, but we are mid-fifties, in very good shape, good looking, decent people, he was well respected and well treated and we did pay his full fee.
We think it was quite clear about anal activity, yet this young man (mid-twenties) had trouble staying hard, even after offering him (and accepting) 50mg of Viagra. Dudes that age with erection problems which don’t respond to Viagra probably should be seeking medical advice IMO…
Yours,
T Dot.
Most of us, no doubt, have all found ourselves at one time or other in one of those awkward “after sex moments”! And although T Dot and his hubby had a good time trying out a threesome, they had entered into an agreement with their chosen partner who, ultimately, failed to deliver what they expected and were paying for. But what’s the right thing to do in this situation? Put it down to experience? Ask for another go? Ask for a refund? If you’ve experienced anything like this and would like to share your advice with T Dot and his hubby, please feel free to leave your opinions in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I’ve recently been thinking of getting a Prince Albert as I’ve been fascinated by pierced sexual organs for some time.
Whilst I’ve already had my ears and nipples pierced, my local tattoo artist said he won’t do a Prince Albert on me, so I’m seeking advice from anyone who’s already had a PA.
Cheers,
ANZ
Piercings, body art and Prince Alberts… all part of the rich tapestry of the human race! Why we do it, who knows? But thank goodness we aren’t all the same! So have any of our readers had a Prince Albert? Or do they know of anyone who has had one, did they enjoy it? Do they still enjoy it? Its it painful? How does it affect sex? So if you have the answer to these questions or any other advice for ANZ, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I’m gay, 24 years old and recently returned back home to the mid West after the last few years being overseas in the Navy.
I’m only out to my friends and younger sister, but had intended to come out to my Mom and Dad when I got home this time. The thing is, since deciding to come out, my family situation changed when my Mom passed away a few weeks ago. I’m also out of work too, so my Dad has been really stressed about this, amongst other things, so I didn’t want to add to that by coming out.
My Dad asked me to clear out my Mom’s things from their bedroom, and whilst he was out at work I came across a locked suitcase. The combo lock was easy enough to open but I was a bit shocked to find it full of dildo’s, gay porn magazines, books and DVD’s! I can’t imagine they were my Mom’s so I guess they are my Dad’s… but I don’t really know what I should do?
Do I confront him or just throw them out? It’s really weird if they are my Dad’s cos he is the straightest man I know. The whole situation is really weird and I don’t know what to do… if anyone has any ideas as to what I should do, or how I should manage this situation it really would be a great help.
Thanks,
Josh B.
We’re sorry to hear about how things are Josh but I’m sure the readers will be able to help you by sharing their opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
My BF wants a 3some and I’m OK with the idea but whats the right way to go about it? We are both flexi’s in our early 20’s and the guy we have in mind is a flexi too who we think will be keen to join us. Just wondered about the do’s/dont’s as none of us have had a 3some before – thanks for any advice!
Threesome etiquette, is there such a thing? Seriously though folks, what are the do’s and dont’s for threesomes? Care to share your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section? Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
Why are all mens nipple’s off to the side. NOT towards the middle. NOT in the center. Tits are dead center. Why?
That’s an interesting point Theater4life! And whilst your question may well be brief it’s nevertheless an intriguing one! I’m sure there must be a logical or genetical reason why mens nipples are where they are (and I’m sure it’s not just from using nipple clamps, although there’s a thought… ) so perhaps our dear QC readers can help answer this conundrum? Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I met him almost a year ago when we were 20 years old (we’re now 21) and since day one we clicked so well and have really been inseparable ever since. Going out every weekend and even hanging out during the week, watching tv, gossiping, and just doing normal best friend stuff.
Shortly into the friendship he confessed to me, after a night out at the bars, that he was in love with me. The next morning I told him I love him as a person but just not in THAT way. The few weeks after that were fine, but little by little he started getting pissed off at me whenever I would mention I thought a guy was hot, or when I would stare and check some guy out. I can’t even say “Hi” to guy friends at the bar because he will flip the switch and not speak to me the rest of the night… after he’s had a few drinks in him he tries to hold my hand and gets mad when I don’t!
I don’t know what I should do, I love our friendship and don’t want to lose such a great friend. But at the same time, I feel like every minute we spend together, I’m hurting him.
Please help!
D.
When your gay BFF falls in love with you what do you do? How can we help D? If any of you have been in a similar situation and care to share then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Thanks! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I’ve had hemorrhoids for about 4-5 years but they haven’t bothered me much since they first showed up in college. I’ve been out of the closet for about a year or 2 now and I’m finding myself in a much more sexually active time in my life. I’ve never had a guy mention my hemorrhoids before while bottoming because I’ve managed to follow a high fiber diet leaving me hemorrhoid free for most of the time.
Recently I got really close with a guy but I believe the anal sex we had might have caused them to return. This problem ended things (he wasn’t mean about it and actually never mentioned it. I knew I didn’t want to hurt myself so things just faded…) and now I’m still suffering (sort of, “Preparation H” does wonders!)
I know hemorrhoids effect a large percentage of people and there have been many advancement on treatments. Does anyone have any advice for a young bottom? I haven’t had sex since, know the risks of unprotected sex, don’t have it, stay safe… blah blah… I’m a good boy! 🙂
Thanks!
F.
Hemorrhoids… yes, we know, they can be piles of trouble! But seriously how can we help F with his problem? I’m sure there are more than a few of us who’ve suffered from this before, what advice would you give? I’m sure F would really appreciate you leaving your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Thanks! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
A few weeks back I was reading an Ask QC about a guy who was nicking jockstraps from the locker room and getting off on it. I know there were some comments saying he was weird doing that, but I kinda knew where he was coming from!
When I was in my late teens and early 20’s I used to steal my best friends underwear. It didn’t matter if it was used or clean but I just had to steal it. I know its weird, but the thing is, he’s been my best friend since middle school and we did everything together. When I got to about 18 or 19 I realized that I had fallen in love with him and had this massive crush on him. But of course, the thing is he’s straight, straighter than straight actually but he’s very gay friendly. When I came out to him he was OK about it and just said we could still be best friends but there was never going to be any sex between us – ever! I don’t know why but I was kinda devastated by him telling me that, well I was happy he didn’t reject me as a friend and I suppose I had a naive hope that even though he was straight he might be into having some fun together. I don’t know why but when I realized we were never going to have sex together I just starting stealing his undies, each time I went to his house I would raid the laundry room. And when I got home I would sniff them and wear them, it even really got me so excited to wear them when I went to his house sometimes too!
Eventually, I stopped stealing his undies, as he went to college and I got a job in the city. I know I should have thrown them out, but I have 22 pairs and I kept them in a box in my drawer and occasionally would still get them out and look at them, especially if I missed him or I was feeling low. Recently my current boy friend moved in to my place and guess what he found, yes that’s right, those undies. At first I tried to fob him off with a story but eventually I admitted what I had done. He now says I should return the stolen undies to my best friend but I think I would rather die than have to face him with that! I know it’s the honest thing to fess up but I am really worried that I will lose my life long friend. I had thought of just throwing them away and telling my BF that I have confessed but I know he wont buy that story. I have really got myself into a mess with this and don’t know what to do, if anyone has any advice or help I would be so grateful. I know what I have done is wrong and I now want to do the right thing, I just don’t know how best to approach the situation with my best friend without losing him.
Thanks for your time, I would really appreciate any help with this.
JD
Remember a few weeks back when we had another underwear thief write in? Seems like there is more than a few who get pleasure from sniffing guys undies but we all know that nicking other peoples knickers is just wrong! So how can we help JD? How can he get out of this sticky situation and come up smelling of roses? If you know the answer or a really neat solution to this then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
Our writer today carefully detailed his situation so it’s slightly on the lengthy side. But it’s a good read and definitely worthy of our help. So let us hear what he has to say:
I am seeking advice on how to deal with this problem I have. There is so much to say, so I hope I can fit in the important details. There is a good friend of mine that I have always liked but never really had any sort of strong feelings for. But a few weeks back, the night before he left for his studies in another state, we had a few drinks together. We started talking and eventually one thing led to another, holding hands and all, and I ended up making the first move and I kissed him. I thought he would pushed me away but to my surprised he kissed me back and asked me to spent the night with him. Even though I kind of hesitated at first, I did spent the night with him.
Here is the problem, I accepted that I am gay a year or two ago and ever since that I have had a few experiences with other men and had been in 3 relationships. Truth be told that night I said a few things to my friend just to get into his pants. But there has always been this tension between us, an attraction between us. There were times when we would caught each other looking at one another while we’re talking to our friends. He did tell me that he doesn’t know whether he is gay or bisexual, and that he is still confuse about his situation, and didn’t want to do anything that will messed up our friendship. I really didn’t care that much back then. The next morning I sent him a text message before he left that I had an amazing time with him but I want us to be friends. I got a weird response from him and ever since that I felt like I have pushed him away. We hardly talk to each other anymore, and out of the few times we did, its mostly me who talks to him first, and even if we did, I don’t get the sort of response I use to get from him before that night. And lately I cannot stop thinking about him, I am starting to really fall for him and I miss him a lot too. I tried to meet other guys, forget about him but I just can’t. It just feels like no one are like him, and I keep thinking about the night we spent together. I now realize that night was indeed the best night of life. It changed me, truth be told, I usually go for one night stands even with guys that I really like. But this was different. I now realize I want to be with him. I feel like I have pushed him away cause of that text message.
I am really confuse about my feelings for him. I mean am I starting to fall in love for him? Or is this just a phase that will pass. What should I do? I want to tell him how I feel but I am actually scared to do that. I am so afraid of pushing him away even further. I am so afraid that if I keep talking to him he might find me annoying, and at the same time I don’t want to do anything to ruin our friendship. I have never been like this and have never felt so strong for anyone before. It’s really starting to take a toll on me and I really need advice on what I should do. Should I move on and just forget about my feelings or should I take a step forward towards him? Please help.
I’ve just entered my 40’s. I’ve never been “vgl” but that has never stopped me from having a very active and safe sex life. I have always been happy about having a good circle of friends and my open long-term relationship. I’m well employeed and very busy socially, professionally and from a volunteer perspective. I have also had an eye for guys both my age and younger. Never (seriously) younger than 18, but I really am into guys that are into older guys. I’ve been in a “relationship” with a 19 year old for a year that is now ending because he’s gone to college in another state. We had a “dad/son” relationship that was very much sexual but that also came with monetary benefits. Over time I came to genuinely love him. And I know he felt something for me—though probably not love or “in love”—I know he cared about my feelings and respected me and even needed me.
I am increasingly approached by young guys about this kind of arrangement… and I’ve even begun exploring another relationship with a 23 year old.
I would really like advice from guys from both sides of this context. I would love to know what makes this arrangement enjoyable, mutual and even healthy.
New Sugar Daddy
We all need help in different phases of our lives and here’s where our QCollective comes in very valuable because of the broad appeal of hot porn. So daddies and teens, wanna throw in some suggestions for our new sugar daddy?
In the spirit of our Advice column, let’s try to have a healthy discussion going on. Anti-constructive comments will be fed to QC’s store of anti-matter for a good display of digital detonation. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
Several months ago, I fell down a flight of stairs and broke both of my arms. I needed to wear long arm casts, which left me temporarily disabled for a couple of months. When the doctor bound my arms, my life stopped. I could no longer do anything on my own. This is when my best friend stepped in and saved me from falling apart.
He took care of me everyday until I got the casts off. After realizing I had no other options and getting past the awkwardness, he began to shower me and took care of my daily living needs. I had met him and his girlfriend in college, and I’m very close with the both of them (I’m out to the both of them as gay). They are a straight couple that have been together for several months, and I had always wanted them to be happy together. Two weeks before I had my casts removed, he stepped into the shower with me (which he hadn’t done before) and tried to jerk me off. He panicked halfway through and left.
We talked about it a few days later. We both kind of saw it coming; there was a sexual tension between us ever since he and his girlfriend fooled around with me months before my accident (it was pretty tame). We decided not to tell his girlfriend about this shower incident. He said over the past few weeks he grew attached to me, but he didn’t know if he could give up what he had with his girlfriend. We ended things rather vague. He basically left it up to me to decide how our relationship will look like.
After what he has done for me, I want him to be a part of my life. Should I let what could be an amazing friendship whither away and spare myself from further pain? Or do I rekindle the friendship and swallow my feelings for him? What if something happens again? Somebody is going to get hurt.
Sincerely,
Broken
Falling in love with a straight guy is what most of us fear. And now our poor friend who wrote in is in love with a straight guy, who is already attached and who has fooled around with him twice.
This friend of his is obviously a great guy, seeing how he took care of him while his injured and physically handicapped. However, much has to say about the fact that he’s exploring the gay option when he’s already attached. So what would you do if you were in the author’s shoes? What would be your considerations? Let us all share our thoughts. Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
