I’m soon to be 20 and have been out for over 2 years. I’ll be starting my third year of college in the fall, and I still have never been in a relationship. I’ve had 4 or 5 of those “almost boy friends”, a few hook ups, and even fell very hard for a friend once, but none of that is the problem.
I’ve always had a harder time talking with guys but lately I’ve notice that any kind of social contact with a man, whether gay or straight, I shy away and pretty much run the other way. Whether I get introduced to a guy, or that cute guy I see everywhere that I make eye contact with, I never know how to go about saying anything and usually end up feeling like a total ass. I tend to get very nervous, very anxious, and scared. I worry about everything; Is my hair okay? Do I look fat? Am I coming off as creepy? What if my gaydar is effed? Aren’t they so outta my league? Am I wearing the right shoes? There have been countless times where I have come off as very bitchy when putting my defenses up around guys, but when it comes to a woman of any age, we could easily talk for hours.
Even though I know that I’m “skinny”, and all my hags say I’m cute, and I’ve been told I’m cute by cute guys, and I might even feel cute sometimes, but when it comes to approaching men I still feel like that scared, fat closeted boy I was in that little homo hating badonk town high school.
I’m not that experienced or confident in any sort of way when it comes to men, so any advice from you handsome QC readers would be greatly appreciated!
College years can be considered to be one of the most interesting and experimental periods. While we old farts can very confidently say that our dear friend here will have many years ahead for self-discovery, we think it’s encouraging that he’s trying to pin-point his weakness so that he can be someone’s better half. So let’s help him with it!
Remember the jittery feeling when you’re next to someone you liked, making you aware of everything and nothing at the same time? How can one be comfortable around potential boyfriend candidates?
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So I’m dating this really hot guy at the moment, he’s handsome, witty, charming and has a great body too. In fact we dated for several weeks before we jumped into the sack, and I was so excited when I knew we were finally going to have sex together!
OK so I know I probably built up my expectations a little too high cos up till that point of getting it on together everything had gone just too perfect. When we got into bed, he said he was a bit passive, which is OK, I’m basically a flexi-top so I though yeah this is gonna be awesome. And then… well then he just lay there! And I thought OK I will really get into this and fuck him in every hole and orifice and find out what gets him going, but no… still he just lay there! He was hard and aroused and the kissing was good so I thought maybe he’s just taking some time to warm up. But really he just lay there and didn’t do anything at all. Kinda weird for me, cos hey you know there has to be a bit of give and take here, I don’t mind doing a lot of the work but I’m not going to do it all! So after he came he said he was tired and went to sleep, that was OK but in the morning I started to kiss him and was getting into another sex session but he was just the same – he just lay there like a dead starfish! Later at breakfast we had a bit of a chat about it and I tried to find out if I was doing anything wrong, is there something he particularly likes or wants in bed and he said no, everything was fine. He said that’s how he always has sex!
So, I’m a bit confused actually, cos I really dig him as a guy and we get along great together but it’s the sex thing that’s bugging me. I know, for me, I have always learned new things and tried different things in bed, but for him he seems satisfied with just lying there. I realize that we all have different sex drives but I’ve never experienced a guy who does absolutely nothing, its just weird! Does anyone know how I can snap him out of his lack of enthusiasm in bed? I would really like to continue dating him as I think we make a great couple but the sex thing has to improve, how to I tell him? Is there anyway I can increase his sex drive or interest? It would be awesome if anyone has any tips or have gotten themselves out of a similar situation. I know the easy option is to go our separate ways but I don’t want to do that, I really want to make this work… help!
Luke
Oh wow… It must be rather disappointing when your boyfriend doesn’t seem to know how to perform in bed! How can one tackle this problem? Sex therapy/counseling (if there’s any for gay couples)? Learn from porn together? Heck, even bringing this hardon-killer this topic is difficult.
Let’s help Luke with this shall we? 🙂
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I have a problem with my boy friends ‘in laws’ and wondered what to do? I love him dearly and when we first started dating two years ago we were still both at college and away from our parents, everything was great then!
Since graduation, we moved back to his home town, basically for his job and he wanted to be close to his family. Even though I’m from a different state it didn’t seem much of a problem at first as I work from home anyway so it was easy to relocate with him. At first things were going OK when we moved back to his home town, and then he came out to his family about 3 months ago. This went really well, I’m out to my family and it wasn’t easy when I did that, so I was really pleased when it went so smoothly for him.
The thing is, once his family knew we were a couple then they starting calling around more often. It started with once or twice a week, to ‘check on their boys’ but now its two or three times a day! Sometimes even four times, and each time they come its for 1, 2 or even 3 hours at a time! Its driving me nuts because I am trying to work from home but they will say things like, “Oh no problem, don’t mind me, you just carry on with your work and I will sit here for a while”. In the morning it will be the Mother-in-law, then it’s the Father-in-law, or an Aunt or brother or sister! It ends up with 3 or 4 of them in our tiny lounge where I am trying to work on my computer and they are all gossiping about family matters and asking my opinion about this that or the other. I don’t mind the fact so much that they clean out the fridge and drink us out of coffee each time, but our apartment is so small and its become a sort of drop in center for his family! As my BF is out most of the day at work he doesn’t see this and just brushes it off and says, “Oh its great they are so friendly and supportive”. So how do I get out of this mess? It’s causing me problems with my work but I also don’t want to upset my BF or my in-laws. I realize it’s probably my own fault for letting the situation get out of hand too but how do I change the situation now? I guess I could rent some office space in town but we don’t make a lot of money and it seems crazy that I am thinking like this, seems like I am being driven out of my own home!
If anyone can offer advice on how to get out of this situation, tactfully, and keeping both my BF and in-laws happy I would be really grateful. I don’t want it to end where I explode and tell them to get f*cked and then cause a rift between my BF and family. That’s the last thing I want to happen.
Hoping you guys can help, thanks in advance,
Ryan
Isn’t it great when you have in-laws that adore you and are supportive of your relationship?But things can turn for the worse when they adore you too much. One’s got to have his personal space and privacy. And in Ryan’s case, he needs his time to work at home too!
How will you get Ryan out of his Catch-22 situation?
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Hope you guys can help me out here? I’m 19 yo, not that experienced in sex, and have had only a few encounters before I met my current (first) boy friend.
He’s 28 yo, really hot and very experienced in bed so I have been very keen to learn and experience new things with him. The thing is, I did something wrong in bed (or rather SAID something wrong in bed) the other night. I don’t really know how it happened, but I just blurted it out accidentally. He asked if I would like to be rimmed and as I have never had that before I said yes, so I am laying face down in the bed and he’s taking like ages, I mean forever! Well OK it was probably only 20 minutes but it felt like 2 hours LOL! To me it felt kinda weird, I really didn’t know what to expect, I wouldn’t say it was totally unpleasant, in fact it was kinda cool really it got me really hard. But then I fucked up big time, when he came up for air and asked me what I thought of it I just said the first thing that came into my head, I said “Well, you were very thorough!”. The next thing I know my BF is going mad, kicking me out of bed and shouting at me “Very thorough, what you think I’m a freakin car wash or something?” I felt really, really bad and just left.
I texted him the next day and said sorry, and he’s OK about it now, we made up and he said he over reacted (in fact we had a laugh about it!) But the thing is I really don’t know whats the right or wrong thing to say when you’re in bed and having sex? What’s appropriate and what isn’t? I mean, its not like you can give marks out of 10 or say, ummm it was OK, are you supposed to say its great (even when it isn’t?), or do you say it bluntly that you really didn’t like or enjoy something? Like I say, I’m only 19 and still learning and want to please my man as much as I want him to please me. Just wondered if any of you guys have any tips on what to say or what not to say when your in bed with your man?
Thanks!
Jay
Now dirty sex talk is something we see commonly in porn. But what do you actually say to your boyfriend during sex? (Or should there even be any talking?) Imagine if the session is going south, or you’re not very into the “special treatment” he’s giving you, should you give him your honest feedback?
Looks like this will be a very useful learning session for all ages. We’re all ears and eager to know!
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[Editor’s Note: Wow… Did QC readers respond to this letter, some albeit too antagonistically! We have chosen to hold back the not-so-kindly-phrased comments. Be kind with your words guys. Let’s try to look at the bigger picture, be less offended by the choice of words and see how we can help this student along!]
Please help! I’m a 20-year-old student in Louisiana who recently met a really cute guy on campus. His name is Shale (like the rock) and he’s got a chili-bowl haircut, is dorky, really lanky, and has the face of a chipmunk—soooo cute!
The only problem is that I promised a good friend of mine that if he ever came out, I would totes get with him. Well he just came out to his parents—they still love him because he’s their only child and now he wants to date. He’s like, totes hilair, totes buff, and totes fun to be with—we get along like two crazy kittens. But the only problem? HE LIVES IN HOUSTON!!! Oh noes!!!
My fag hag told me, “Don’t leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one you love.” But she’s never had a real boyfriend and she’s an alky, so I need advice from real gay dudes with real gay lives, like me.
If me and Mr. Houston could make it work long distance, I know we would end up together forever because that’s just how close we are (we like talk a few times every week and post funny shit on each other’s Facebook walls—SUPER POKE!!!). I would totes make him my hubs forever, but Shale rocks the casbah too.
SO CONFUSED!!! What do I dooooo???
I know you will not lead me astray, porn dudes.
Thanks a mint,
Mickey
Anyone who’s ever tried a long-distance relationship knows it’s hard going, especially when you’re so young and interested in other people. And 20-year-olds ready for marriage? Who are you, Juliet? What’s the rush, Lady Capulet? Perhaps you should wait it out until you’re both done with school or maybe it’s best to strike while the iron is hot—after all, why delay a good thing? But what do you think, QueerClickers? What would be fair for Mickey, Mr. Houston, and Shale as well? It’s not cool to keep a guy waiting, but it’s even less cool to date one while pining for the other. So what do you think? Please leave your advice, opinions, and experience in the QComments section.
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My name is Mitch. I’m 31-years-old, 5’10”, 185 pounds and a pretty healthy fit guy overall, but I get really nervous in bed, so nervous that I lose my hard-on whenever a guy starts to suck me or bottoms for me—I just dry up. It doesn’t happen all the time, but sometimes when I’m with a hot guy, I’ll feel really intimidated and shrink. Then it never comes back and I feel like a loser.
So a friend of mine suggested that I start popping a boner pill like a Viagra before having sex and it was like a dream come true. I could get hard if the wind blew the right way and I started topping and face-fucking all sorts of beautiful men. It was awesome.
Here’s the thing though: Now I’ve been using ED meds to fuck for the past five years and I wanna stop. I’m used to hooking-up and occasionally fucking while drunk, but I’ve been going through therapy and trying to stop my addictive behaviors. Right now I’ve given myself permission to still hook-up if I wanna, but I wanna try without using pills or alcohol and it’s got me nervous.
I’ve topped and cum before without using the pills, but it’s rare. And now that I’m off the pills, I worry that I’ll go back to going limp in bed. A friend of mine compared it to a fairy tale where someone finds an enchanted object that helps that accomplish something they could do on their own. At the end of the fairy tale, the person learns that the “magical item” wasn’t magic at all.
I kinda hope the Viagra and Cialis are like that, but I’m worried they’re not. Has anyone gone through this problem? How can I help myself stay hard and confident in bed without using drugs and alcohol to help me stay up?
It’s rare that an advice seeker at Ask QC starts a letter off with their height and weight, which leads us to think that you’re putting way too much emphasis on your physical body and performance. Sex and your body are important, but they’re not the only thing when it comes to fucking around. Maybe if you had a sex partner or a fuck buddy that you felt more comfortable with, you could just enjoy being naked and vulnerable around someone without focusing so much on staying hard and cumming. But that’s just our take. What do you say, QueerClickers? How can Mitch stay confident while also staying off the drugs? Please share your experience, opinions, and advice in the QComments section.
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I am a 20-year-old college student who is in the closet. I am good looking and fit, and wouldn’t have trouble getting guys but I just date girls right now and I’m not sure how to take the steps to come out of the closet. I am the last person anyone would suspect. I am on my college football team and I feel like my life would suddenly be horrible if I came out.
I am consumed by thoughts of gay sex and do some wierd things since I don’t get any male action. I have become addicted to stealing guys used underwear from the gym at my college after they work out. A lot of guys just peel off their clothes and leave them in a heap on the floor and head to the showers. When no one is around I take every opportunity to take their underwear. I love licking and sniffing a guy’s underwear while I jerk-off. It’s become a real problem since I seek if out on a regular basis. I have even come across underwear with skid marks or cum stains or pee stains and I lick them too. I feel bad after I cum but I don’t know how to control my urges anymore. Any suggestions on how to break this habit will be appreciated.
While we feel slightly turned on reading this letter, we’re also worried that our young advice seeker-slash-underwear fetishist will get caught brown-handed unless he figures out a way to start fooling around with guys, pronto. But the sports world doesn’t always seem like the gay-friendliest place and coming out when you’ve just dated women can feel really difficult. So how can he break himself of his skivvie-stealing habit without remaining sexually frustrated? Please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments.
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I am an 18-year-old high school student who just finished my junior year. I’m not a great student so for the last semester my parents have made me see a tutor to improve my math skills. His name is Daniel. He’s about 27-years-old, majorly fit and handsome, and single as far as I can tell. He’s also very masculine but I always got the feeling that he liked checking me out. He would compliment me on my haircuts, ask me about my lacrosse matches, and just generally take interest in the things I do, like play music, go on hikes, and stuff.
One day when he came over, he gave me trigonometry worksheet and it was just him and I in the kitchen. Anyway, at one point I looked up and saw him staring right at me. I looked at him made a face like “What?” and he just smiled and nodded. I didn’t think anything of it until I got up to get some water and saw him adjusting his crotch underneath his table—he wasn’t fixing his underwear, he was totally feeling his crotch.
It got me really hot and no one else was home and all I wanted to do was stop with the dumb worksheet and kiss him, but I didn’t because I didn’t want to misread him or cause any trouble. So I just finished my worksheet and when I handed it in, we didn’t say anything we just kinda looked at each other and were both probably thinking the same thing. Anyway, school’s over and so I haven’t really been seeing him as often at all, but I still have his phone number.
Should I call him and ask if he wants to hang out or is that dumb or illegal or wrong or anything? He’s a really nice guy and I think it’d be cool to fool around, if he’s up for it. But I don’t know how to ask or if I should even ask. Any advice would really come in handy.
Uh-oh! Someone’s hot for teacher! We couldn’t tell from your e-mail if you’re out of the closet or if you’ve ever had a gay experience or not. But if you haven’t, that could explain why you’re feeling so attracted to your tutor. We’re not sure what advice to give you. On one hand, you can’t let your parents know because they’d probably flip out to hear about you fooling around with their employee. But on the other hand, you’re of legal age and there’s nothing wrong with choosing to hang out with an older person you like. So we’re gonna turn it over to our readers. What do you think, QueerClickers? Green light? Yield? Stop sign? Please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments.
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I would like to see Ask QC run a forum on the best practices around anal care, particularly around anal douching.
-Is it a good idea?
-What are the risks?
-What works best?
-What doesn’t work well?
-Best practices?
I think this is something that everyone could benefit from.
Thank you!
-S
You heard him, boys! Consider this The Official QueerClick Forum For Douching And Anal Health. You are our panel of sexperts here to teach S and the rest of the QueerClick community all about good clean bottoms. What are the health and sexual benefits of washing out your colon? What should one avoid or watch out for before, during, and after douching? Do you have any douche secrets (kinda like Pop Secrets, but douchier)? What are the big douching no-nos? And finally what are the most tried and true methods to make sure your bottom stays squeaky clean? We’re interested to know and only you can help us all! Please leave your knowledge, expertise, opinions, and experience in the QComments section.
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First of all, I would like to say that I love your site. Best material that’s always fresh and yummy!
I have a problem that I would like to share with fellow QC followers and hopefully, they can offer me some advice.
I am a 28 year old who’s 5′ 10″ and about 154 pounds. I am a bottom and I’ve always loved getting fucked. However, getting fucked has been a problem for me lately. It seems that every time after a hot session of sex, my ass will feel very sore and I will sometimes even bleed when I am in the toilet.
This has never been a problem before. I went to the doctor and he gave me a tube of proctosedyl to apply into my rectum. It is not helping. I don’t engage in rough sex, I ensure there’s plenty of lube before penetration and I even start slow, so that my hole gets used to the cock and stretches itself nicely before the full-on thrusting begins. I haven’t been having sex with exceptionally large men either.
I also eat my greens, take a dietary fibre supplement and I exercise regularly.
The persistence of the problem has taken a toll on me. I don’t enjoy sex anymore, it takes me a week before I can do it again and I get depressed thinking about it.
Is there something I can do or apply to help solve this problem?
I hope someone can give me some advice.
Thanks.
Ash
Right off the bat, our advice seeker should try reading two old installments of Ask QC about painful bottoming here and here. But otherwise, could there be some bigger internal issue going on or even a psychological issue, especially if he premeditate pains going into sex. We’ve come to expect some soreness and maybe he needs some time with toys. But enough of our thoughts… what do you think? How can this young bottom end up feeling back on top? Please share your advice and your experiences in the QComments section.
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OK, I’ll just say it—I really like spanking guys. There’s nothing that gets me harder than bending a guy over my knee, pulling his underwear down, and giving him some good, hard swats until his ass is shiny red. I love feeling a guy’s dick get hard against my legs as he moans and squirms.
But other guys… not so much.
I’m not a fetishist or a BDSM freak or anything—I’m not interested in joining a group. I don’t have paddles, crops, whips, or gloves. I’m just a dude who likes spanking ass, but I can’t seem to find a guy who’s into it. My ex-boyfriend didn’t mind me smacking his ass while topping him, but he didn’t like it during foreplay or any other time. Now that I’m single and dating, I try and introduce it to our sex play slowly, never coming on too strong. But while some guys will do it to humor me, none of them seem to really enjoy it; some even seem freaked out by how turned on I get.
Am I doing something wrong? Am I a freak? Am I the only one with this fetish? Do I need to try and find a guy who’s specifically into this? Is there a better way to warm other men up to trying it out and enjoying it? Please help. It seems like such an innocent thing, but such a turn off to everyone I meet.
We’re not so sure this is as “innocent” as he makes it sound, but that’s not a bad thing. If anything, we kinda think this guy should find someone who’s totally into spanking so he can really push the limits, try new things, and maybe work out some of the pent-up sexual aggression. But what else can he do to warm his lovers up to his rough foreplay? How could someone convince you? Please share your advice, opinions, and experiences in the QComments section!
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OK, this may sound like a weird request but… here goes. I don’t cum very much. When I “blow my wad” it isn’t a WAD at all; it’s more like a few sprinkles of cum, just dots here and there—hardly the gushers you see in porn.
Now, I don’t need to shoot like a porn star or anything, but I do wish I could cum even a little more. I’ve tried not masturbating for a few days and exercising more. I’ve even stopped smoking and eating foods high in sodium so I don’t dry myself out, but it hasn’t worked.
Do any of you guys have tips on how to blow bigger loads? At this point I’ll try anything! Thanks.
Sometimes we take our bodies for granted and don’t appreciate all they can do. As long as you’re having great orgasms, quality trumps quantity as far as we’re concerned. But while it’s important to accept your body’s limitations there’s nothing wrong with wanting a little more from yourself. Our advice seeker’s wish seems modest enough, is there anyone who can help make his wish come true? What do you do if you wanna shoot a big load? Is there anything he can ingest or do to get more buck for his bang? Please leave your advice and experiences in the QComments section.
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My name is David. I met Johnathan at a local bar and we played a quick game of pool and traded numbers. We ended up hanging out the next weekend, going to his friend’s picnic and playing ultimate frisbee together. He’s fun, smart, competitive, and sexy—he has a deep voice, a hairy chest, facial scruff, and nice muscular calves. Here’s the catch though, he recently revealed to me that he was biologically born female.
It kinda blew my mind and I asked him a few times if he wasn’t kidding. He apparently started transitioning in his teens and pretty much passes for male now. The thing is, I see no hint of the feminine in him whatsoever—he’s all dude as far as I can tell. There’s just one little thing… I’m not sure whether I wanna date this fella and I haven’t really followed up with him yet because I’m kinda nervous about what the sex will be like.
I’ve done some research online and apparently female-to-male genital reconstructive surgery doesn’t always make the most attractive or functional dicks. I’m afraid that I won’t know what to do with his penis when he whips it out—will there be some pump involved? Does it feel sensations like my dick? Can it cum? Will I always have to be the top?
Even though I’ve never known a trans person before and I’m not afraid of dating Johnathan (OK, well maybe a little), but I just wanna know what to expect and how to please him. We’ve already kissed and I know we’d go a lot further if given a night together. Does anyone have any experience or suggestions?
Not every guy you meet is perfect, we all have our histories and our own unique sexual styles. Some people feel like they were born into the wrong gender just as some gays feel like they weren’t meant to be heterosexual. It’s cool that Jonathan’s trans-identity doesn’t have to be a deal breaker, but what can our advice seeker expect from the sex? Is there anything else David should keep in mind and would you date a very sexy trans-man if you found yourself in David’s position? Please share your advice and experiences in the QComments section.
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Ok so I’m 19, never had a boyfriend am inexperienced and all that jazz but I met this great guy last year and hopefully we’re having our first date soon. So we got chatting and talked about what we would and wouldn’t do and sex came up. I said I’d be willing to try as long as I’m not stuck as the bottom and he agreed we would take turns… we agreed on safe sex only.
In excitement I read up online about safe-sex practices and decided to start readying myself 6 weeks ago. So using a lot of lube and tons of patience I stretched myself… it was ok. I managed so I went in deeper and that was ok too. But next thing when I pulled out there was a little blood but I didn’t think anything of it… and I stopped out of fear.
A few days after I got several stomach cramps and loss of appetite so I saw the doctor. He said it was gastrointestinitis… 4 weeks after I still had a problem and I went for a re-evaluation and the doctor said I had some other stomach acid problem and so re-medicated me. It’s 6 weeks after the incident and for the past two weeks I’ve been feeling myself again so I decided to try again but not go as far. Only when I entered I thought I felt different on the inside but then again I can’t really remember the first feeling. Am I being paranoid and was the stomach problem just a coincidence to come at the same time or have I damaged something internally? As of now I feel 100% normal but I’m concerned I might have done something bad to my insides =(
Please help, Concerned.
Let’s face it, bottoming for the first time can be downright painful. Members of Team Orange suggesting douching before letting anything up there, that way you can confidently open your ass with less fear of poo or pain. Also use TONS of lube and take a deep breath calming breath as you slide down on it. But apart from that advice, what do you QueerClickers think about his intestinal health issues? Has he hurt himself, is he over-worried, or should he watch for further signs? Have you ever experienced a similar issue when bottoming? What did you do to put yourself at ease? He could certainly use your experience and advice, so please share in the QComments section.
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I read your QC question/advice section all the time (all the pics of cute guys too of course). So I need some advice with this… I’m 25 going on 26 and have never had a serious relationship… like ever. I have regular sex with guys but nothing that is remotely close to having a boyfriend, a couple of times it has come up but I get claustrophobic and trapped.
I like my space, but it’s getting a little lonely, and even though I kinda shut down when it comes to relationships I want one but I won’t ask and my fuck buddies are just that. So, I am sure I’m not the only one in this boat and I need to get over this feeling of being uncomfortable about letting guys in. So dear QC, any advice?
Love and relationships aren’t all fireworks and poetry. Quite often, they can leave a guy feeling smothered or burdened with all sorts of expectations that suddenly weigh him down. But it certainly doesn’t have to be that way and maybe all this stud needs to get started is a different outlook. It’s hard to know what’s going on with this guy without a more information, but maybe he’ll pop back up in the QComments section and elaborate. In the meanwhile, how can he open himself up to a real relationship after a long stint of hook-ups? What should he keep in mind to stay positive and self-aware instead of closing up and hurting his chances? Please share your advice and experiences in the QComments section.
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I met a really dazzling fellow at a bar a few weeks ago. His name is David, he’s my age, owns a coffee shop, and is an artist with his own apartment. We were both drunk and it was late and we went back to his place and fucked. We got along that night and have hooked up twice since then. Each time he’ll call me, we’ll smoke a little weed, talk, and listen to music. We both have a lot in common, have good senses of humor, enjoy art, literature, and film, and really get along in conversation. Plus the sex is pretty hot.
In short I like him and I think he may like me but I can’t really tell. I have tried not to let on and tend to keep a low profile. We make sexual compliments but nothing very romantic or about each other’s personalities. I don’t make such compliments because I don’t want him to think I’m clingy or for the sex to stop. He’s a pretty busy guy so I don’t know if he’s fucking other people or not, but I wish there was some way I could ask him if he likes me or tell him I like him without it getting all weird.
Is there any way to ask or figure out if he likes me without scaring him off?
Oh hookups! You two-headed beast! We’re sure plenty have guys have hooked up with a fellow only to end up having feelings about them later on… but what to do about it? Should our advice seeker be upfront about his feelings? Is there a way he can express his feelings without giving away too much? Or can he figure out if his new fuckbud likes him in some other more subtle way? Please share your experiences and advice in the QComments section!
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