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Hi there QC,

A few weeks ago there was a question on here about when Is the 'right' age/time to 'come out'?

Well I have the same situation but its double the problem - my brother (who is 17 months older than me) is also gay and we recently came out to each other (he's nearly 20 and I'm 18). Although I already knew he was gay, he said he had no idea about me and didn't believe me at first when I told him! LOL!

The thing is, we both still live at home with Mom and Dad, 3 brothers and 2 sisters (all younger than us) and although we're not too sure about coming out to them all just yet, we really do want to come out to our parents.

Our question is, should we both come out at the same time to our parents and with both parents present? I think we should but my brother thinks it will be too much them to take and he wants to test the water first and come out to them by himself first - then if its OK then I should do so at a later date. I'm not really convinced that's the right thing to do and really think we should both do it together. So if you have any ideas or advice on how we should do it then that would be really great!

Thanks for your help guys!

J + D

Making that decision to come out is a big step so lets see if we can help these two boys!, whilst every circumstance is different, and your situation is a double whammy, lets hope that some of our readers have experienced a similar set of circumstances and will be able to guide you. So, if you think you can help J + D with their dilemma and answer any of their questions and more, or have any other advice to offer them, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.

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Hi QC,

I'm 19 years old and have been going out with my first true boyfriend for about 4 months now.

Before I met him, my only sexual experience was masturbating a few times with other guys in the locker room - but nothing more than that.

My boyfriend is nearly 10 years older than me, and so far our sex has been great - he's been very patient in showing and teaching me all sorts of stuff.

One thing I'm still unsure of though, is that when I give him a blow job he really wants me swallow his cum - so far I have resisted this but I don't mind if he comes on my face - in fact I quite like it :)

But is it safe to eat his cum? When I mentioned about HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases he said its OK for me to swallow cos the sperm will be killed in by the acid in my stomach. Is this right? I realize that I shouldnt have sex if there is any exchange of fluids like if I had a cut in my mouth or going bare back and fucking without a condom is risky but what about swallowing cum from a blowjob?

I should also mention that we have both had HIV tests that were negative as I was a bit cautious about sex when I first met him, like I say he's been patient and all but I'm still a bit concerned about swallowing cum (although I kinda also like the idea of doing it for him too).

Thanks if you can help me answer this,

Ryan B

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Hi guys,

I'm 32 years old and have been living together in a relationship for 6 years with my partner who is 40 years old. We plan to marry soon, but recently I became aware that my partner masturbates alone regularly. I would say in general we are compatible on many levels, he's perhaps got more sex drive than I and he's also definitely the top in the relationship and the one who usually initiates sex.

The thing is I just happened to walk in on him when I came home early from work and he wasn't expecting me back and, I caught him in the act. Even though we both intimately know each others bodies, weirdly, we were both embarrassed by it!

We talked about it afterwards and I was expecting him to say it was a 'one off' but he admitted that he does it regularly, at least several times a week - that got me mad!

I don't know why, but I feel like he's cheated on me, or at least he's cheated me out of having sex with him - I know this is probably a bit irrational to feel like this, but if he needed sex then I am his partner and I believe he should be sharing it with me and not masturbating alone. Sure I work long hours, but I'm always there for him every night, so why does he still feel the need to jack off by himself?

My question is, is it normal within relationships for partners to masturbate alone? My boyfriend says it is, and although I haven't had too many partners in the past (living together that is) so I don't really know if its normal or not. I do know that I feel hurt by this, don't get me wrong I'm very open regarding sex and in the bedroom we play with plenty of toys together - its just the fact he was doing it alone that disturbs me.

I realize that this might be totally normal and happens in all relationships so perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't do this, but if you guys have any advice or experiences on this subject I would be most grateful.

Many thanks,

Jasone M

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Dear QC

Hi QC

OK, so I have heard of the prostate (or anal) orgasm. Apparently it's when you have the most intense orgasm ever all over your body and in some cases you have an orgasm even without cumming.

My question is out of all the porn movies that have ever been filmed, I still haven't seen nor heard about them happening to pro porn stars.

So do you know of any? Or is it true that none exist?

Thanks,

Jacob

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Dear QC,

There's this guy, he's straight, which is painfully obvious. Problem is, I think I might have fallen a bit too much for him. It's been bugging me for so long. When we first met, he hated me a bit because of my guts and I kinda also disliked him because he tried too much to be somebody.

But that all changed when he and I went with other guys to this retreat. I got to know him better and, after that, we grew to be close friends. This was where the problem started. I kinda began to always look for him in the crowd. Every time I go to school, whenever I see him, from afar, I feel like I'm on cloud nine. I know I love him but this much? It's scary, that I can say.

What is more fucked up though is that he is the only one I feel this way for. I mean, yes, I check out other guys. There are a lot of hotties in my campus but, of everyone else, he's the only one I feel comfortable being gay. I don't even know if I should call it gay because he's the only one I dream of being a part of. I don't even get interested whenever I see hot guys, but with him, I want to build my whole life with.

What's sad is he is scared of homosexuality. It's not that he hates gays, but I know that he wants to get married to a girl and start a family. What fucking hurts is that we're growing apart. Even if we were just friends, that would be more than enough for me. I don't know what to do anymore. He's my best friend but things don't go the way we plan them.

Help me, please?

RR

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Hi there,

So I have been seeing a guy since November, going on several months now. We see each other at least four times a week, cuddle on the couch, watch TV shows together, have inside jokes, and for all intents and purposes are dating, even though he "doesn't like labels."

Sexually, we are kind of complicated. He's diagnosed with depression, and on anti-depressants he can't keep it up. He assures me that it's not me, but one still wonders. He has since come off the pills with the guidance of his doctor, but often, he has no libido at all. So I guess all of that is problem one.

To complicate those problems, I am the first guy he has ever been with. He is not out at all, but will hold my hand in public. He recently told me that he feels wrong after every time we do anything sexually. It's not a religious hang-up, but living in the Bible Belt, that guilt comes when you are a kind of new gay. He claims that he is unsure that he is gay, but with claims about how my touch means more to him than a girl's ever has, I find it hard to believe that as a possibility, because I know how he is feeling from my first boyfriend.

On the good side he is a great guy, he is smart, into me, well-read, on a job track to a nice life, very attractive, and shares my sense of humor. I really, really care about him, and worry about these issues and his depression compounding. So QC readers, take a break from your porn and help me please. What should I do....stand by him, talk to him? If so, how do I bring up issues like these without overstepping personal bounds? How do I talk to him, and tell him about my coming out and coming to terms experiences (that I think can help him]) without seeming like I am trying to offer him propaganda?

Thanks for all of your advice,

CT

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Dear Ask QC,

I am seeing a guy who's best friend is also his ex-boyfriend.

I don't know what to expect, and I am trying to be as neutral and understanding as I can possibly be.

My biggest fear is that I will always assume the worst whenever they are together, and I don't want that to be a factor in our blossoming relationship.

Can anyone with prior experience with this issue give me some pointers. I just have no idea what to expect, and I don't want to be that bitch that drives his best friend away over my petty emotions.

Thanks.

RHL

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Dear Ask QC,

For as long as I can remember I've had pearly penile papules. It's not bad and my junk doesn't look like it came out of a mutant horror movie! I've never had a problem with them and I've had plenty of healthy sex with different guys.

The last guy I hooked up with, however, was kinda snobbish about it. He didn't say anything, but there was that look in his face. Ever since then I've been really self-conscious about it. I've been thinking maybe getting them removed, but the doctor said that if they're not causing discomfort or serious problems, he would advize against it. What should I do? Is it gross? Am I okay? Or was that one guy just being an asshole?

Socal

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Hi QC,

So I'm living the old story about having a crush on my best friend, but at the same time this is a very different kind of story because we were "fuck buddies" for 2 years before we had a real friendship.

Since last September we started hanging out together on a regular basis, talking just about everything for hours at a time, going to concerts, doing lunch. Just doing normal friend stuff minus the sex, but then he started seeing this guy and has been dating him for the last 4 months.

From what we have talked about and from what I can see, he is now really unhappy. His head says ¨get out of this relationship¨ but his heart says ¨I cant - I'm too in love¨. His boyfriend is not here nor there sometimes, although he is really nice and attentive sometimes, most of the time he is like "whatever".

Its not like I want them to break apart either, I tell myself everyday that everything is going to be fine and work out in the end. But sometimes during our conversations, he says. ¨I need somebody to come and rescue me out of this relationship¨!

So now I don't know if he is throwing me hints and whether I should step up and say something... or is just a comment he's making?

I'm really terrified that if I say something to him then he will react badly and stop being friends. I would literally die in my heart if that happened and I wouldn't be able to take that pain of losing him... what should I do?

Please help, I'm so confused!!!

DP

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Hi QC,

I love bottoming, just really can't get enough, but unfortunately if I bottom more than three or so times a week I end up getting torn and bleeding for a few days.

I've done everything I can think of, making sure to void myself prior so that's not in there getting knocked around, I put lotion on in hopes that it'll keep me stronger. And while this all seems to help some it hasn't made the problem go away yet.

I know some guys clench down too much and that can cause distress, but I really don't think I'm doing that either.

Any advice?

Brent

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Hi guys,

Okay so this might sound stupid, but there's this really really hot guy at a Starbucks by my house, and I cannot for the life of me tell if he is gay or not!

He's really nice and I catch him looking at me, but it might all just be in my head. How can I, (1) Tell if he is gay or not? (when the only time I see him is at his job) and (2) How can I ask him out or give him my number or something?

Thank you!

Dan

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Hi guys, here is my problem.

I'm 25 years old and my BF is 35. I started to have sex at around 23, 24. Quite "late" but in a way, I tried to compensate by trying different experiences: cruising bars, SM, threesomes... I was not a sex addict, though and only went to those things when I was feeling horny.

The thing is that after asking several questions to my BF about his sexual experiences I realized that he's slept with thousands, literally, thousands of men. For instance, he told me that from 23 to 25 he had slept with more than 500 different guys!

Now, I can't help but having images of him and those guys in my head. I'm lost. It's eating me up inside and destroying something that could be very special. He keeps telling me that it doesn't matter, that I'm his man, but sometimes, I'm just in a real spin and can't stop thinking about anything else which brings me to not being able to share the good moments we can have.

HELP ME PLEASE!

Thanks,

L.

Hi L and thanks for writing in, seems like you are having a difficult time getting through this, perhaps our dear QC readers can help? So how would you help L? Have you had issues with your current BF's past? Is sleeping with thousands of men too much? Or not enough? If you can help L in any way, or have been in a similar situation then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.

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