So here’s the deal — I’m 20, gay, and trying to figure out what the hell it means to be queer, be able to express and live my life — and yeah I’m talking porn here too! On paper, things look good: Pride is pop culture, gay marriage is legal, and queer folks are all over TV. There is plenty of porn, both studio and amateur and creator content. But in real life? It’s… well, seems complicated, and there seems to be a lot of division with some folks wanting to take away our rights and from all angles, like WTF!
I used to be fine with PDA’s but now I am even cautious holding my boyfriend’s hand in public in case there is backlash. Porn laws seem to be stricter than before, and yeah I get it’s to protect minors, but its somehow the way its being done seems oppressive and overzealous — like come on, we all have sex and we all watch porn (straight gay, bi, any sexuality) why is it being made such a big deal? I still feel like I have to edit myself depending on where I am or who I’m with. And honestly, even within the LGBTQ+ scene, there’s always pressure — to be hot, funny, successful, and always on — so why fuck it up even more with these porn laws?
So I guess I’m asking: How do you stay proud when the world still low-key wants you to tone it down, especially porn? Why would anyone want to make it sound shameful or push it underground? It’s 2025 and if you wanna get off or do porn and show it to the world it couldn’t be easier opening on OnlyFans or JustFor.Fans account. So why does big tech and the banks all support these platforms and then its legislated to the nth degree and brushed under the carpet like it doesn’t exist? How do we go about changing this feeling in our culture that feels repressive, even in our own community?
I know there is a lot of horrible stuff going on in the world, and to some, this might seem trivial or sound like a small complaint but I really feel like our rights are being eroded and we are being steam rollered — I would love to hear a solid take on this. No BS, just any real advice — thanks!
Ollie
Hi Ollie and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. You’ve covered quite a lot here, but it’s all relevant and current topics, especially the question of porn. So dear QC readers, what do you think and what advice would you give? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
At 40, I thought I had myself figured out, I’ve been openly gay since my early 20’s, and my identity has always been a source of pride and community. But lately, I’ve found myself questioning something I never expected: my attraction to women. While I have always admired strong females, I’ve never been sexually attracted — not even in my teenage years.
It seems to have started subtly, with just a conversation with a female work colleague, and weirdly I found myself getting sexually aroused. At the time I put it down to the fact we were chatting about our boyfriends and she had been telling me about her wild weekend of hot sex. While I was curious about these feelings it’s weird they persisted and it’s not as though I kept thinking about her BF sexually, it was more focused on being with her and having actual sex together.
I have always acknowledged that I continue to learn about my sexuality, in so far as I started out as an “oral and masturbation only” guy, became a bottom and in later years discovered being a top and am now happily vers. I’ve been open to introducing games, role-play, toys and porn into the bedroom with my partner. But being attracted to women sexually, until now, has never entered my mind before. Is it possible to experience a shift in sexual orientation at this stage in life?
I know it’s very easy to label or pigeon hole — we’re taught to see identity as a box to check, but the idea of “turning bi” feels strange, almost like betraying the gay community that’s been my home. Yet, I know that bisexuality isn’t a phase or a compromise — it’s a valid orientation, one that deserves the same respect and legitimacy.
My question is have others here experienced this too, and how did they handle it? I’ve discussed this with my current partner, initially we talked about open relationships but the female part of the conversation has him as confused as I am. If anyone has any advice or experiences to share I’d be really grateful — thanks!
Toby M.
Hi Toby and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Sexual discovery, and fluidity, is a life long journey and many people experience shifts in attraction as they age. Personal growth, changing relationships or simply a deeper understanding of themselves. We understand that this can be both liberating and terrifying too, and that is the thing about humans, we don’t have all the answers yet (and maybe never will). But we do have a wonderful and diverse community here, of all ages and with all types of experiences to share.
So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Toby? Have any of you ever experienced a similar situation to this? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
I’m a 22-year-old gay man trying to navigate the world of dating and hookups. Here’s the thing: I identify as versatile and I equally enjoy both topping and bottoming, depending on the vibe and connection. But lately, I’ve noticed that many guys seem to have pretty strong preferences — they’re either strictly looking for a top or a bottom.
This has me wondering: in the hookup scene, is versatility seen as a plus, or do most people prefer someone who fits into a more defined role? Sometimes I feel like I should just pick a lane and stick to it to make things easier, but that doesn’t feel authentic to who I am.
What’s your take on this? Is being versatile an advantage, or does it make things more complicated? And how can I approach this whole situation while staying true to myself and keeping things fun?
Thanks for your advice — I’m all ears!
Best,
Xander xx
Hi Xander and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. While we all have our preferences sexually, each is a unique experience and doesn’t necessarily need to be defined so precisely.
So dear QC readers, what advice would you give to Xander with his predicament? Please feel free to share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
I’ve been a big fan of QueerClick for years — love you guys!
A bit about me, I’m a 22-year-old guy and I’ve been keeping a big secret from my family for years. I’m gay, and I’ve finally reached a point where I feel ready to come out to them. With Christmas just around the corner and the whole family gathering for the holidays, I’m wondering if this might be the right time to share my truth, as I will return home for 2 weeks from college. On one hand, I’m excited about the prospect of finally being my authentic self around my loved ones. The thought of no longer having to dodge questions about girlfriends or pretend to be someone I’m not is incredibly appealing. Plus, having everyone together could mean I only have to do this once, rather than telling people individually.
However, I’m also terrified. My family is quite traditional and religious so I’m not sure how they’ll react. I don’t want to ruin Christmas for everyone if it goes badly. There’s also the fear that this news might overshadow the holiday and make things awkward or tense. I keep asking myself is Christmas the right time for this conversation? Should I wait until after the holidays? Or should I tell them before everyone gathers, so they have time to process?
I’m lost and could really use some advice on how to handle this situation. What do you think I should do? I’m really getting quite anxious about this so would appreciate everyones advice here.
Love and hugs for the holidays,
Jaden
Hi Jaden and thanks for the kind compliments. Coming out to family, friends and the world is a unique experience for all of us and we understand your concerns. We are sure our readers will be able to offer you help with this situation.
So dear QC readers, what advice would you give to someone coming out? Do you think it’s a good (or bad) idea to do this at Christmas and a family gathering? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
I have a bit of a dilemma. I’m 18 and recently started college as a freshman after leaving home this year. I’m not out to my family but have a BFF who has been very supportive through my teens when I was struggling with my identity and accepting myself for who I am. I’m totally fine with all of that stuff now, and moving to the city from a rural town to start college has been very exciting. Especially as I can live my life being gay and out without the prejudice that would happen in my home town (and my family is quite homophobic too).
The dilemma I have is actually with my bestie, as she insists I have been raped, or at least seriously sexually molested, but I do not feel this is the case. As she is still living back in my home town and I’m in the city, we only get to text and FaceTime; we confide in everything (including our sexual adventures).
So I decided to go off campus to some gay bars, the first time for me and a little scary, especially going in alone and not knowing anyone. The first two bars I just finished my drink quickly and left as I felt so self-conscious, but the 3rd bar was great with more of a dance party vibe happening. Not that I am a great drinker, but I seemed to fit in with a crowd of older guys (mid to late twenties) and even got invited back to a house party too!. For me, it seemed like heaven watching guys kissing and being intimate together and dancing, but I got a little too drunk, till I was sick and vomiting in the bathroom. The couple who’s house said I could stay and use the spare bedroom where I crashed out. During the night, I heard someone come in and lay next to me on the bed. I was fully awake, but (not sure why) I pretended to still be asleep. I was really hoping we would have sex, but I’m not that experienced so didn’t know how to move forward with the situation. Well, the guy then lifted my shirt, kissed my nipples, and moved his tongue down to my waist. He unzipped and pulled my jeans and shorts down and proceeded to kiss, lick, and suck my balls. I was super hard and erect; I don’t think I’ve ever been that hard before! Eventually he took my whole dick in his mouth and gave me the most amazing blowjob ever! When I orgasmed, it was totally explosive and I filled his mouth. I was quite shocked as he carried on sucking and swallowing; he took it all inside and then licked me clean. He then pulled my shorts and jeans back up and zipped me up, pulled my shirt down, and then left the room. For me, it was the most amazing experience, and I never at any time wanted him to stop, even though I kept pretending to be asleep (or a bit unconscious from being drunk). Continue with “Ask QC: Have I Been Raped?”
Hi AskQC,
I’m Jet, 19 yo and dating an awesome man of 32. We get along really great and I’m learning a lot sexually from him as he is more experienced. He’s been patient with me but I’m so eager to be fucked so far it hasn’t really worked out quite right. I douched an all that so I was clean but he has a thick cock and I just can’t stretch that wide. He says I will be able to and suggested to wear a butt plug during the day before going over to his place. So basically I need advice on stretching my hole, is a butt plug the best way to do this? I’ve seen a few different ones online, like metal and silicone and I can get a range of sizes and I know I need to lube up. But my concerns are if I wear a butt plug during the day will it rip or ruin my hole? I mean will it stretch it too far and not go back? I really wanna be fucked and hoping this is the best way to make my ass ready, any tips and advice are welcomed, thanks.
Hi Jet and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. You’re right to be cautious and ask advice about using sex toys physically. You will be amazed to learn that the anus can stretch and return to normal, however, it should be noted that prolonged use of very wide toys could cause prolapse. This is when the muscle tissue is torn or damaged and it will not only be painful but could require medical surgery if that happens. I do not wish to alarm you as this would occur in only those extreme cases, you are right to seek advice and go slowly, start small and build up. We do not advise wearing a butt plug for extended periods of time (ie days/weeks), a few hours before you meet your date will help with anal stretching to be able to accommodate a girthy penis. Make sure you clearly follow the safety guidelines provided with the sex toy and proceed with caution, if it’s too painful then stop. If you try for a small amount of stretch for a few minutes and over several days and slowly build up to longer periods of time and a wider butt plug. However, if you are still experiencing pain and unable to stretch further we suggest seeking professional medical guidance at a genitourinary clinic.
So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Jet? It’s likely many of have experienced this, how did you handle and overcome these issues? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
Something a bit different this week. We’ve been enjoying the “Old Gays, New Gays” podcast series for a while now and would love to share it with our readers here too.
Nick and Ant are the younger hosts and Frank and Dan the older ones – they deal with everything from relationships, health, sex, apps and advice with contrasting perspectives from the different generations of gay men, and in a very entertaining way too!
They have plenty of fun, serious and relevant content and publish on multiple different platforms – you can follow them HERE… take a listen or watch them on Nicks’ YouTube channel!
I’m an 18 year-old gay virgin and I’m really struggling with how to navigate the dating scene safely.
I have a really strong interest in sex, but I’m terrified of the risks associated with the gay club and bar scene, especially when it comes to drugs and STDs. As a result, I’ve only been using dating apps anonymously so far. And meet ups have just been mutual masturbation, which is great but I want more and to go further.
The thing is, I think about sex a lot… a real lot.. like all the time (day and night) and I’m worried this might mean I have an addiction or an abnormally high sex drive. Is it normal to be this preoccupied with sex at my age?
I really want to find a life partner, but I’m not sure how to do that safely without putting myself at risk. I prefer older guys than myself, 30+ but they don’t seem to be interested in me when I tell them my age and experience.
How can I meet other gay men and potentially find a long term relationship while staying safe? And how do I know if my interest in sex is healthy or if it’s becoming a problem?
Sorry I have so many questions, they keep spiraling in my head… I’d really appreciate any advice you can offer.
Thanks
Austin
Hi Austin and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. All of your questions are valid and there can never be too many when it comes to learning about new life experiences. You’re right to be cautious about taking risks and while some clubs, bars and festivals may be associated with drugs or promiscuity that doesn’t mean you have to be involved in that too. Have you tried contacting a local LGBTQ+ center in your area? And other common interest groups are a good place to meet new friends outside of the gay community too. And to reassure you, at 18, yes its totally normal to be thinking of sex 24/7, your hormones are raging so that physiology will also affect your pysche too. It will pass, but may take some months (even years) but if you try not to worry or focus on it then you should be able to manage it and get through. Physical exercise and sports may help with controlling your sexual energy, but it’s different for all of us so you may have to experiment and try a few things (jogging, meditation, etc). If you really think it is becoming obsessive or out of control we would suggest you contact a sexual health professional to discuss this further.
So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Austin? Many of us may have experienced this, how did you handle it and overcome these issues? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
Hi, I’m just 18 earlier this year and going to attend my first Gay Pride event in the city next weekend. I live in Europe in a small rural town about 30km’s (20 miles) from the city – I’m not out to my friends or family so will be traveling and attending the event alone.
Can you guys share any tips or advice for my situation, I’m excited but also a bit scared… I’ve wanted to attend a Gay Pride event for the longest time and I now have this opportunity, but because I’ve only ever lived closeted in a small isolated town I feel a bit intimidated and anxious about this.
I realise I have to step out of my comfort zone if I am going to meet new people and make gay friends but I really feel the time is right now to try this.
Any help would be really appreciated- thanks!
Ray
Hi Ray and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Attending your first LGBTQ+ event can be wonderful and liberating, being surrounded with like minded people and all the fun and entertainment that goes with it too. Remember that Pride is also a political protest event too, so there is a serious side to why we need to hold these events. As you are traveling into the city alone, I would suggest you contact one the cities local LGBTQ+ support groups and ask if you can join them. They will be more than welcoming and this should also help you feel safe. Talking of safe, if you get up to some fun then play safe too! Even though you aren’t telling your friends or family which event you are attending, do let someone know your whereabouts and stay in contact with them – stay safe and enjoy!
So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Ray? Do you remember your first Pride event and what advice would you offer? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
I’m 28, live and work in New York City, busy life, work, etc but recently got into this really weird scenario. My love life was simple; I enjoyed being single, went out on dates with men, and enjoyed having sex hookups when I wanted. But at a recent event I met this great couple, two guys in the same creative industry as me and we got along so well we went for more drinks later. After partying some we ended up back at their apartment having a threesome which was amazing but at the time I thought would be a one off (or perhaps an occasional thing).
But it has now developed into something far more intricate and, to be honest, a bit confusing. After 4 weeks of seeing each other almost every night I moved out of my place and into their apartment. I am now living in a throuple relationship currently, romantically and intimately with two wonderful, amazing men. But after five months of this arrangement, I’m beginning to doubt myself and whether this type of relationship will last over the long run… even though the sex is still amazing and we are all getting along.
I’m not sure if I am just having a wobble and self doubting my confidence but I have no experience of the dynamics of a throuple relationship (although I’ve experienced the highs and lows of two-person relationships in the past), so including a third in the mix has added a degree of complexity that I did not expect. On the one hand, our level of emotional and physical intimacy is unmatched by anything I’ve ever experienced; our love feels multiplied and our support system is stronger. However, it can be challenging to balance the demands, goals, and expectations of two partners at the same time.
Whether our relationship can continue at this level of intensity is one of my main concerns as our current relationship is driven by a powerful combination of excitement, novelty, and yes, amazing sex. But what occurs after the hormone rush fades off? Will the strong emotional and romantic ties we’re developing last, or will we eventually lose interest if the novelty wears off?
I’m seeking any advice or experiences of this type of relationship, do throuples last? Any help from the team and readers is most welcomed.
Thanks,
Dillon
Hi Dillon and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. As you know from your previous experiences there will be highs and lows in any relationship. When there is a third person involved too then it’s logical there will be an added dynamic and that all three of you need to get along, agree, compromise, etc, and this will be somewhat more challenging. That said, it doesn’t mean that it can’t work, this is something you will be learning day to day and as you face each different challenge and experience within the relationship. So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Dillon? Have any of you been in a similar situation before, have you been in long (or short) term relationships as a throuple? What challenges did you overcome? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
I’m a 20-something gay guy living in America, and I’m struggling with the hookup culture and expectations around kinky sex. The thing is, I’m just not into that stuff – I’m pretty vanilla when it comes to my sexual preferences. I enjoy simple, straightforward intimacy without any BDSM, roleplaying, or fetish elements.
The problem arises when I go on dates or hook up with guys from apps. Even when I make it clear upfront that I’m only interested in vanilla sex, a lot of them seem to ignore my boundaries. They’ll try to coerce me into kinky acts I’m not comfortable with, or they’ll outright insist on things like anal sex even after I’ve said I’m not into that. It’s like they think they can change my mind or wear me down.
It’s really frustrating and makes me feel violated. I worry that if I continue being firm in my preferences, I’ll be seen as a prude or boring. But I don’t want to compromise my values or do things sexually that I’m not genuinely into, even if it means less hookup options. I just want to be able to have drama-free, consensual vanilla sex without this constant pressure to get kinky.
How can I navigate this better? Is there a way to filter for other vanilla-oriented guys on the apps? Or are there better places to meet potential partners who will respect my boundaries around sex? I’m starting to feel like I’m doing something wrong by just wanting to keep things simple in the bedroom. Any advice would be appreciated!
Sincerely,
Vanilla and Proud
Hi and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Sexual preference is a personal and relevant topic to raise, especially as it is important to set your boundaries and for your sexual partners to respect those. It is great that in your 20’s you’re happy and comfortable with vanilla sex – we always say there is no right or wrong to sexual expression between two consenting adults, as long as no harm is done and boundaries are respected. So dear QC readers, what advice would you give? Have you been in a similar situation, have you been coerced into a type of sex you don’t enjoy or didn’t intend to do but felt pressured by your sex partner? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!
I’m writing to you because I’m at a crossroads in my life and I’m not sure what to do. I’m 19, a student from a South American country so please excuse my English writing. I still live at home with my parents, who are very religious and as the eldest boy expected to marry a girl, for the family name have children. I’ve known for a long while that I’m gay, but I’ve kept this part of my identity hidden from my friends and family for fear of their reactions and the possible consequences.
I’ve recently started dating someone who is older than me. He’s been incredibly supportive and understanding, but keeping our relationship a secret is becoming increasingly difficult and painful. I long for the day when I can openly share my happiness with those I love, but the thought of coming out terrifies me, especially given my family’s religious beliefs and the cultural attitudes towards LGBTQ+ people in my community.
I’m torn between the desire to be true to myself and the fear of losing the support and love of my family and friends. I worry about the potential backlash, not only socially, but also in my own home. The thought of rejection or disappointment is overwhelming and I’m not sure I’m ready to face the possible consequences of coming out.
I guess what I’m looking for is guidance on how to approach this situation. How do I start having these conversations with my family and friends? Is there a way to gauge their possible reactions without coming out completely? And how can I prepare myself for the range of reactions I might receive?
I understand that coming out is a deeply personal decision and that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach, but any advice or insights you can offer would be greatly appreciated. I want to live openly and authentically, but I also don’t want to lose the relationships that are important to me.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and to help with advice.
Yours FM (I’ve been a fan of Queerclick for the longest time thanksyou!)
Hi FM and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Coming Out is always a personal and interesting topic to raise, especially as it is important to stay safe in your own circumstances with your countries laws and families religious beliefs. While you are still living at home with your parents and siblings we understand this may be difficult, challenging and not always possible. So dear QC readers, what advice would you give FM? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences to help FM, in the QComments section below!
I’m fairly new to the gay scene an all, I’m 18 and still living at home and not out to my family. I’m in a small town in Kentucky with the nearest major city is an hour drive and so I’ve been using the dating apps to try to get to know guys and even meet up.
I recently had an experience on Grindr that left me feeling quite vulnerable and confused. I met someone who was really hot, a few years older than me and looked really sexy. He seemed sincere at first, but as we continued to chat, I started to feel that something wasn’t right. The pictures he sent were slightly blurry and he didn’t have an album of photos to share, which struck me as unusual.
When he asked for nudes, I suggested moving the conversation to Snapchat to verify his identity, a precaution I usually take. He agreed and added me, but when I asked for a live snap, he sent a picture that was identical to one he’d previously sent on Grindr. When I confronted him, he denied it was the same picture, but then he blocked me on Grindr. He continued to message me on Snapchat asking for nudes, but I blocked him there too.
I’ve heard of catfishing, where people use fake profiles to trick others, but I never thought it would happen to me. Is it a big problem on Grindr? I’ve learned that there are different types of catfishers: some use other people’s pictures to trick you into talking or meeting them, and others are scammers trying to get personal information or photos.
I’m feeling a mix of emotions – a bit dumb and embarrassed that I fell for it, angry that I was tricked, and worried that it might happen again. I’ve been reading the Advice columns here on QueerClick but couldn’t find anything on this topic. I’m gonna guess that there loads of the readers here that use the dating apps and could give me some advice. How can I spot a catfish in the future and what should I do to protect myself from this kind of situation?
Any advice you guys can give would be really appreciated.
Thanks,
Caleb
Hi Caleb and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns.This is an interesting topic to raise, especially as it is important to stay safe when meeting and hooking up with other guys when using dating apps. Sadly we think it’s all too common for cat-fishers to be present but you’re right to make sure to verify who you’re talking too. Live video and other platforms/apps are a good way to verify if a person is real, but even then we would advise that you take caution when meeting up in person for the first time. Make sure it’s in a public place and somewhere you can exit quickly if you feel uncomfortable with the situation. And always let another friend know when and where you have arranged a meet up. So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Caleb? Have any of you experienced this before, if you’ve been previously catfished, what precautions do you now take to avoid it happening again? If you have any ideas on how to help him with this issue then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!
Hi, I’m 22, I’m a masculine, well built college jock – except in one department, my dick isn’t exactly big. Tbh it’s only 4” when hard and it’s causing me a real problem.
It seems all the bottoms I dated want “well hung” and it’s doing my head in seeing the look of disappointment when I drop my trousers for sex. A couple of guys have even laughed, which I kinda laughed it off too at the time, but really it was very crushing.
Look… I know that every top isn’t hung like a porn star, and I realize that there are lots of bottoms who are “size queens” but is there anyone out there who is going to accept a top like me who has a smaller than average cock?
I even tried bottoming for a while, but it just doesn’t do it for me, I didn’t enjoy the experience or feeling. I have this really strong urge to fuck, not be fucked.
Tbh it’s really starting to get me down and depressed. At high school it didn’t really bother me as I was in the closet there, but when I moved to the city for college 2 years ago I came out.
Admittedly most of my dates have been through the apps but I’ve yet to meet a guy “normally” as in friends or common interest first and got to know each other before jumping into bed.
Any help? I’m not sure what to do and this is destroying my confidence in dating guys. When I tell guys on the apps my size I usually get blocked, but should I tell someone if I am regular dating or do I wait until we have sex and then…
I recently started dating a super hot guy earlier this year, I’m 19 and he is 29 and a real sexy daddy!
We really get along great and for the first 6 months we have had loads of sex, really hot wild sex, like 2-3 times a day – he’s top verse and I’m bottom verse.
I’ve only fucked him once though and that was 3 weeks ago, the weird thing is since then when we have sex together he can’t get it up! He said he is okay with getting an erection by himself and jerking off but for some reason when we are together he can’t get erect with me. I suggested more things like massage to relax him or that I fuck him but he says he doesn’t want that.
So, I’m a bit confused, he obviously doesn’t have any physical problem getting his dick hard if he can jerk off when we are not together. So it would seem to me a psychological issue, either that or he has “gone off” me!
I’m a bit concerned because I would really like to make this long term and he says he would too – any ideas how he can clear his head of these issues and so we can get back to our normal and crazy hot sex life!? It would be a great help if anyone here can offer or share their advice or experiences with me to help me in this situation.
I have an open relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for 5 years and we often welcome one, two, three guys into our sexual adventures. I’m not going to lie I really enjoy it and I know some of your readers will say they don’t understand, but it has brought us closer.
We sometimes, but not often, have hookups outside our relationship. Over a bottle, or two, of wine Saturday night my bf told me that he had sex with a woman from work. To my knowledge this is the first time he has had sex with a women since we have been together. I identify as totally gay and I feel like he has cheated on me in a way that him having sex with other men has not made me feel. He told me that she had asked him about pegging, her desire to peg a guy and the inability to find a guy who wanted to get pegged. Long story short he said she could explore it with him. He as always been a butt slut, so I’m not surprised.
Has he gone too far? I feel a little let down, like the trust is gone. But it was only with a woman that I have these feelings. I hope my fellow ‘Queer Clikers’ can offer some advice.
