I’m 28 yo, single, gay and have never considered myself to be bisexual or straight.
I was recently was at a party, got a little too drunk and ended up kissing a girl. The weird thing is I really liked it, to the point where I got aroused.
I’m a bit disturbed by this as I have never been sexually aroused by looking at a female body and I have only ever dated men. I feel a bit weird about it, because I have the urge to want to try it again… am I turning straight?
Help!
Hi there and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Many gay men have kissed (or even had sex) with women, it doesn’t necessarily mean anything other than you are exploring all possibilities, it’s doubtful that any incident such as this will “turn you straight”. So, dear QC readers, have you experienced this before? What tips and advice do you have for this situation? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I know there are a lot of guys who actually like a crazy wild and bushy crotch but I find that disgusting and prefer the smoother feel and hygienic look of no hair on the balls and just some neatly trimmed pubes around the cock area.
I really don’t like to have hairy balls, or even a big pubic bush, and I’m not into hairy assholes either. The pubes around my cock I keep trimmed OK with scissors, but I’m not sure what’s the best hair removal for your ball bag and around your hole?
Waxing, electric trimmer/shaver or wet shave?
Cheers,
Ryker
Hi Ryker and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. We all have our preferences whether to manscape or not don’t we? A few years ago a similar question was raised about the art of shaving and you may find some interesting advice there in the comments section. So, dear QC readers, if you like to remove your pubic hair and have some tips and advice please let Ryker know. If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
My friend recently starting dating a guy who I know from the past. Not that I ever dated this guy before, but he did make a pass at me even though he knew I was in a LTR with my current partner of 9 years. And it was more than just flirting, it was a full on grope and a forced kiss onto me. At the time, I just pushed him off and didn’t think any more of it, but now he has started dating my friend I don’t know what to do.
My partner thinks I shouldn’t say anything to my friend about that night, but I feel uncomfortable knowing that if he tried it on with me he probably will do it again (if not with me then with other guys). The fact he tried it on when he knew full well that I was in a steady relationship gets to me, what do you think I should do – I don’t want my friend to get hurt by this man, so should I tell him or not?
Bryant
Hi Bryant and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. I can certainly understand your particular dilemma, do you tell him or don’t you? So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Bryant? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
None of us want to be fat. Especially if we’re a celebrity, such as the UK’s Dancing With The Stars’ performer James Jordan, who was the subject of a scurrilous article in the Daily Mail recently that showed pictures of him taking out empty pizza boxes, shirtless, and clearly showing that he’d been eating plenty of pizza.
But what is wrong with having a belly? Especially if you’re aged 35 or older, and you’re a man, unless you’re a professional athlete, or a dancer, or a gay party boy, you’re going to have a belly. We should embrace our beautiful male selves, shouldn’t we? Peruse the following pics of James as well as Mark Wahlberg, who gained a very sexy belly for a movie role, and tell us: bellies: hot or not?
Recently after a few too many drinks one night, I jokingly asked my boyfriend of 12 years if he ever got the urge to sleep with different guys. To my horror he admitted that he had a one night stand a few years ago with a guy from the gym.
I felt like I had been kicked in the guts, part of me wishes I had never asked him, and part of me wishes he had not told me too.
I’m finding it difficult to accept what has happened, he’s apologized and all but I just cant get the image out of my mind that he slept with another guy. I feel devastated.
What’s the best way to get over this, should I leave him? I’m still angry, upset and brooding over it and it’s been weeks since his confession. Please help.
Tom
Hi Tom and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Sorry to hear about your troubles but we’re sure there are readers here who have experienced and recovered from similar situations. So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Tom? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I have been in a steady relationship for 7 years, and until very recently I thought everything was going fine. That was until just before Christmas when I got home after work and my boy friend was leaving our home with all his stuff.
I guess if I hadnt gotten home early that day I might not have even seen him, as he had planned to just leave a note on the kitchen table and walk out. Although I did talk with him for a couple of hours he just said he was leaving, it wasn’t working out and that he had to live his own life.
To say I was devastated would be an understatement, I was in a state of shock and numb for days. I couldn’t eat, work or sleep. And I still don’t think he gave me any real valid reasons for splitting up – its not like we used to argue or fight, our sex was great (at least I thought so) and we were socialized together.
The embarrassing part is that when I told my friends about it, they all (well most of them) knew that he would do this. Yet no one said anything to me at the time, I feel so depressed and low knowing this. I can’t stop thinking about how this has happened and really feel I can’t get over him.
My questions are, how will I be able to recover from this? What should I do to stop these pattern of thoughts that just keep going around in my head? My heart still loves him but I now know he won’t come back – I don’t know what I did wrong, he hasn’t answered any of my calls or texts for months since he walked out on me.
I would really appreciate any advice on this – thanks guys…
Love n hugs,
Reid xoxo
Hi Reid and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Sorry to hear about your problems, but we’re sure that there is help out there for your current situation. So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Reid? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
So I came out to my family this last week and all hell broke loose. Unfortunately my parents (in particular my Mom) freaked out and made me go to the clinic for STD and HIV tests.
Even though these are all negative they have told me I have to leave home, because they don’t agree with my lifestyle. Their initial reaction was that I must be diseased so I have to leave home, but now they know I am clear they are saying I’m immoral and there is no place in the family for someone like me.
I’m more disappointed than angry because I am still a student and I don’t have any money, I’m staying with friends now until I can find a job and get my own place.
Do you think there is any way I can persuade my parents that I can return home, or is there no point? At the very least I would like to reconcile with them and be accepted, I miss my home life, especially my brothers and sisters.
I would appreciate any advice, thanks.
Hugs,
Caine
Hi Caine and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Sorry to hear that your parents have reacted in such a way and hope you are able to resolve the situation. Coming out, especially to conservative parents can be difficult and not always go as planned but you have been courageous in doing so. And its impressive and admirable that even after being forced to leave the family home you want to reconcile with your parents. So, dear QC readers, have any of you been in a similar situation as Caine before? What tips and advice can you give him? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
Champion ice skater Johnny Weir may not be to everybody’s taste. His decision to participate in the commentary team for the controversial Sochi Winter Olympics was slammed by many who thought Weir should show solidarity with LGBT advocates calling for a boycott of the games as they are being held in homophobic Russia. Others applauded Weir’s courage of his own convictions. But last week, Weir’s colleague, openly gay sportscaster Don Lemon complained that Weir was “too gay” even for a position commentating on one of the gayest sports there is.
It got us thinking. Do we sometimes embarrass each other? Is there a line somewhere between “just gay enough” and “too gay”? And why are there so few flamers in gay porn? Do we still need to see twinky bottoms being manhandled by deep voiced macho men, the kind of thing we all love at places like MEN.com?
Let us know your thoughts – but be sure you don’t get “too gay” – in this week’s QC Open Forum.
Do any of your readers deal with this? It seems I can’t be the only one. How do you handle it if someone finds you attractive (esp. sexually attractive) for a trait that you yourself don’t like/hate about yourself? What if someone finds you attractive because you’re fat, but you wish you were skinny, and vice versa. Or if someone finds you attractive because you’re an older man but you wish you looked younger, and vice versa? Have a lot of hair/are bald, pale/dark, tall/short, etc.
How do you stay in the mood if someone is in bed with you verbally turned on by something about your body that you wish was different?
KW Guy
Hi KW Guy and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. It’s probably true that all of us have some aspect about ourselves (physical or otherwise) that we wish were different or that we could change. And, thankfully, we aren’t all attracted to the same things, but having a partner who is especially turned on by something you really don’t like about yourself can be rather challenging. So, dear QC readers, do any of you have physical traits that your partner loves but you hate? Have you been able to overcome this? What tips and advice would you give KW Guy? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I’m 22 years old and have recently become sexually active, really active lol. I’ve been hooking up more and guys actually notice me now, which has been good for my self-esteem, but I’ve hit a major bump.
I really really like oral sex, however topping and bottoming is something I just can’t get into. The times I want to top I go flaccid as soon as I see a condom, and the times I bottom it hurts like hell and I feel the need to go to the bathroom. Both of these situations make me feel insecure about my performance in bed, because I just wanna be an awesome bed partner.
Do you guys have any tips on what I could do to enjoy anal sex more?
We all get off on a bit of student-teacher porn. The guys at MEN.com specialise in it, and it’s hard to think of any gay porn house that hasn’t filmed at least 10,000 after-school detention scenes. They’re great – no doubt about it. But, there’s a bit of a difference between porn fantasy and reality, and the recent case of a young guy called Noel, who despite being over the age of consent was kicked out of school for filming scenes for Sean Cody, has sparked no end of controversy.
A QueerClick reader who is both a teacher and a gay porn lover sent us an email this week. Part of it reads:
You may see “Noel” as an adult, but those of us in the education community and most parents see all students in high school as kids until they graduate, regardless if they are 18 or not. We must treat them the same as always. It’s time that the gay porn industry takes a stand on something other than fighting over condoms. There needs to be a promise to all of us educators and parents, that you will keep porn out of high school.
Our reader makes a valid point. 18 years old or not, if you’re still at high school, should you be moonlighting as a gay porn star? Please peruse the following images from the 1982 classic Kept After School, and then please share your thoughts on the matter in this week’s QC Open Forum.
I’m from Mexico City, love the site. I’m 25 yo. Just read a nipple addict needs every time more stimulation to reach orgasm, so … I have the same issue, but in my butt hole.
Just yesterday I was finally nice fucked by a very huge thick only top cock, I felt it, but wasn’t as good as I had fantasized. I usually (three days peer week) fuck myself with huge dildos (BAM and Joh Holmes) or get fist-fucked once a week.
So I´m worried, this last cock was really big, if that one didn’t fill me up as I´m used to … Will I ever enjoy a normal sized penis again?, Is it possible to forget previous sensations and get used to enjoy with a normal cock?
Or should I never go back and continue with toys and fist? (its really hard for me to stay away from my toys). Please, I will appreciate the opinion of someone that has the same issues.
A.
Hi there A and thanks for writing in with you questions and concerns. We all have our preferences when it comes to sex, some like to use toys and fisting, some like anal sex and some don’t. Just because you have a particular taste or preference in sex now doesn’t mean that it will always be the case. There are lots of ways to give and receive pleasure sexually, so dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give A? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I don’t seem to be attractive to the guys I am attracted to, what do I do?
When I was younger (20’s-30’s); I would get the attention of very hot looking guys. I mean the type the others would say ‘WTF you hooked-up with that hottie?’ I also dated the same type of men, but it didn’t last longer than 6-9 months. Some how the interest in me was lost.
Now I am in my early 40’s and the guys I am still attracted to are not even looking at me. Yeah I’ve put on some weight and the hair has gotten some grey in it, but I’m still the same man inside.
I know one of the obvious answers is to get in shape; lose the extra weight. But is it these days that men don’t want to date for a relationship anymore – is it just the FB thing now?
Waiting for Mr. Right
Hi there and thanks for writing in with you questions and concerns. Finding a compatible life partner and your Mr. Right (as opposed to finding just a Fuck Buddy) can be fraught with difficulties. But don’t despair, there are lots of alternatives out there and no doubt many readers who can point you in the right direction. So dear QC readers, what suggestions and advice can you give to help find a Mr. Right? If you can help in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for 5 years. We enjoy our sex life a lot, only recently I’ve was given a diagnosis of Irratible Bowel Syndrome. Due to this I have developed anal fissures which break open and bleed from anal sex.
I havn’t found a Doctor that I’ve been able to have this conversation with. Any suggestions on how to find a Doc that will help me out? Does anyone know what the Dr. will suggest? Surgery?
Thanks, M.
Hi there M and thanks for writing in with you questions and concerns. No doubt there will be other readers who have had the same medical condition that you have identified. And there will be others here who can point you in the right direction to find a suitable Doctor or Specialist. So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give M? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
I have a horrible gag reflex….even when brushing my teeth I will start to cough and gag. Is this something that I could be taught to overcome, or is it genetic?
I have straight friends who can deep throat a 7″ banana and I’m like, “Damn! What a waste of talent!” but I start coughing and spitting and choking somewhere around two!
I’d love to be able to take a cock down my throat, but I don’t know how! I’ve tried practicing with different fruits and vegetables, I even had one of my BFFs let me try practicing on him and he said he’d kick my sorry ass out of bed 🙁
Any suggestions?
TMK
Hi there TMK and thanks for writing in with your question. Gagging is a natural reflex reaction which can be difficult to overcome and especially off putting during oral sex . But you are not alone in this and we are very sure that there are ways to reduce or eliminate this problem. So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give TMK? Has this happened to you before and were you able to overcome it? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
Unfortunately, the HIV epidemic among gay men in wealthy countries (that’s us, guys), is not only continuing, but accelerating, with the rate of annual new infections spiking all over the world (Ireland, for example, recorded its highest annual amount of new infections among gay men in 2013 than ever before). That worrying fact indicates that some of us – of either status – are taking more risks, and that’s probably because some of us are less frightened of HIV than we used to be. And that’s understandable, given that newish pharmaceuticals make HIV not quite the nightmare it was in the 1980s and 1990s.
